backseatjuan
Banned
Is it ok on your first date to request two separate checks? If yes when you do it, when you first order, or when you're ready to leave?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Two separate checks plz
- Thread starter backseatjuan
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
If she is worth going out with, she is worth picking up the check. It sends a very, very bad message to a woman. Is it a double standard? Yes. It is just how the game is played. If she is to ultimately submit to you, you need to pick up the check on a date.
First dates should never be dinner anyway. They should be action dates, perhaps with a lunch thrown in.
First dates should never be dinner anyway. They should be action dates, perhaps with a lunch thrown in.
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Well once the time to pay comes it means I have all the info I need about the girl.
If she is not worth, shows low interested or busted my balls I have no problem at all to ask 2 different checks and the waitress in front of her.
Atom has a point but we come from two different generations and I simply adapted to the current world for my age group.
Personally toward the end of date 1 I can make a 90% accurate evaluation of the outcome of such interaction.
No need to waste money even few euros nor give the wrong message that no matter what, she is entitled to anything....only exception would for girls who are super polite and nice even if I dont like them.
If she is not worth, shows low interested or busted my balls I have no problem at all to ask 2 different checks and the waitress in front of her.
Atom has a point but we come from two different generations and I simply adapted to the current world for my age group.
Personally toward the end of date 1 I can make a 90% accurate evaluation of the outcome of such interaction.
No need to waste money even few euros nor give the wrong message that no matter what, she is entitled to anything....only exception would for girls who are super polite and nice even if I dont like them.
If your goal is not to get laid then by all means split the check. Just how it is...
You can gauge where things are going by the time dinner and drinks are over. If you don't think it's going anywhere then by all means split the check. Also, you should probably have bumped uglies by the time you are treating to moderately expensive dinners so in the end it's a wash.
You can gauge where things are going by the time dinner and drinks are over. If you don't think it's going anywhere then by all means split the check. Also, you should probably have bumped uglies by the time you are treating to moderately expensive dinners so in the end it's a wash.