Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Two girls, one doubt

Wysiwyg

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Hi there, i need some advice in this situation i'm in. Forgive my english, it's not my mother language.

There's two girls in the place i work who have a crush on me, but i don't know what to do. Is not a lack of DJism, i'm already beyond that (thanks to sosuave.net). The thing is:

1. This girl, i call it 1, is a HB8+ who wants to be with me. We went out a couple of times, and she's totally diferent from me: i like Jesus and Mary Chain, foreign movies and books, she like Mariah Carey's R&B kind of music, bad comedies and soap operas. In other words, i try to be "indie" and she's totally "mainstream". Can't think of other way to explain that. But she's caring, funny and very cute.

2. This other girl, 2, is also a HB8+ who wants to be with me, and she is as "indie" as me. The thing is, she have a boyfriend and doesn't have the courage to broke up with him to be with me. She even said to me that she have a great inertia: once she's in a situation, it's hard for her to change it. And we like each other very much. Even my coworkers saw us as a couple there. Damn, i do like her.

So, whatta hell should i do? Go for number 1 and deal with all that stuff or try to get number 2 to me?

Help!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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KingPinp

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do number one. number to is asking for much unneccessary drama
 

Wysiwyg

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Heh, thanks anyway TKMan. :p

KingPinp and others: Ok, but is it possible to work with a person that different than me? I mean, there´s things i can´t even say because she´ll have no idea of what i´m talking about, and the places we usually go before we met are different too. I´m not thinking only in get some, i think also in LTR terms. Just wondering, any comments are welcome.
 

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Depends if you want some quick sex or an LTR (long term relationship).

Either could be good for quick sex. Just make sure her BF doesn't kick your ass.

On the other hand, I wouldn't recommend either for an LTR. #1 won't last, there's too much of a personality conflict. #2 is probably just fvcking around with you, don't do anything with her unless she gets rid of the BF.

You can always find other girls.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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