"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Two girls, one doubt

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Hi there, i need some advice in this situation i'm in. Forgive my english, it's not my mother language.

There's two girls in the place i work who have a crush on me, but i don't know what to do. Is not a lack of DJism, i'm already beyond that (thanks to sosuave.net). The thing is:

1. This girl, i call it 1, is a HB8+ who wants to be with me. We went out a couple of times, and she's totally diferent from me: i like Jesus and Mary Chain, foreign movies and books, she like Mariah Carey's R&B kind of music, bad comedies and soap operas. In other words, i try to be "indie" and she's totally "mainstream". Can't think of other way to explain that. But she's caring, funny and very cute.

2. This other girl, 2, is also a HB8+ who wants to be with me, and she is as "indie" as me. The thing is, she have a boyfriend and doesn't have the courage to broke up with him to be with me. She even said to me that she have a great inertia: once she's in a situation, it's hard for her to change it. And we like each other very much. Even my coworkers saw us as a couple there. Damn, i do like her.

So, whatta hell should i do? Go for number 1 and deal with all that stuff or try to get number 2 to me?

Help!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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do number one. number to is asking for much unneccessary drama
 
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Heh, thanks anyway TKMan. :p

KingPinp and others: Ok, but is it possible to work with a person that different than me? I mean, there´s things i can´t even say because she´ll have no idea of what i´m talking about, and the places we usually go before we met are different too. I´m not thinking only in get some, i think also in LTR terms. Just wondering, any comments are welcome.
 
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Depends if you want some quick sex or an LTR (long term relationship).

Either could be good for quick sex. Just make sure her BF doesn't kick your ass.

On the other hand, I wouldn't recommend either for an LTR. #1 won't last, there's too much of a personality conflict. #2 is probably just fvcking around with you, don't do anything with her unless she gets rid of the BF.

You can always find other girls.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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