"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

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One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Two girls in same yoga class

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I've been talking a lot with a girl in yoga class. Recently I asked her for a coffe. She said it's not a best time but gave me her number anyway. I will try to setup a date in a week or so. In a mean time another girl in same class is sending me some signals (proximity, smiles). I spoke with her only once because never wanted to speak with her more. She is really cute so I would like to try with her as well. I am afraid though that when they see I am speaking to both of them they will get angry and I will lose possibilities with both.

Do you have some similar experiences that I can learn from?
 

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I've been talking a lot with a girl in yoga class. Recently I asked her for a coffe. She said it's not a best time but gave me her number anyway. I will try to setup a date in a week or so. In a mean time another girl in same class is sending me some signals (proximity, smiles). I spoke with her only once because never wanted to speak with her more. She is really cute so I would like to try with her as well. I am afraid though that when they see I am speaking to both of them they will get angry and I will lose possibilities with both.

Do you have some similar experiences that I can learn from?
Yeah i used to think the same way since im in a college,tell you what,talk to everyone,just be social and test thier waters,then go for the more reciptive one.
 

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Speak with both of them in a friendly tone, keep a low profile and with some luck they could even challenge each other about who gets your attention.

Just dont play the smart kid with both..at some point make your choice according to their feedbacks.
 

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Go for the second girl and ask her out after chatting her up. The first girl sounds like she's just being nice, doesn't sound interested so I wouldn't worry about her getting angry or losing her as a possibility.
 

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Go for the second girl and ask her out after chatting her up. The first girl sounds like she's just being nice, doesn't sound interested so I wouldn't worry about her getting angry or losing her as a possibility.
feh, teh first girl will start to be interested when she saw him with the second, serious question though to the op, what you really are afraid of? are you dating the first one? you jsut asked for a cofee, its not her bussiness how many people you ask out
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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1. Coffee dates aren't a good idea. They are poor for escalation and too static. I'm suggesting something overly elaborate here but change your date venues. Hikes are good, amusement parks, wine bars, rock climbing, etc. Try to have at least one of the following action, alcohol, and/or interesting scenery.

2. Competition/jealousy is like crack for women. As mentioned be cool, calm, and collected and if you get busted or called on it then you can say something like who wouldn't want to talk to two (insert a few compliments here) women. You are downplaying your potential player status by qualifying.
 

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1. Coffee dates aren't a good idea. They are poor for escalation and too static. I'm suggesting something overly elaborate here but change your date venues. Hikes are good, amusement parks, wine bars, rock climbing, etc. Try to have at least one of the following action, alcohol, and/or interesting scenery.

2. Competition/jealousy is like crack for women. As mentioned be cool, calm, and collected and if you get busted or called on it then you can say something like who wouldn't want to talk to two (insert a few compliments here) women. You are downplaying your potential player status by qualifying.
My idea for the date is to ask her for coffee then after an hour bounce to pub and try to get a make out there. If I get make out then I will try to take her home.
 

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Neither of them is your girlfriend, so neither of them would have anything to get upset about. Women like men who keep their options open
 

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My idea for the date is to ask her for coffee then after an hour bounce to pub and try to get a make out there. If I get make out then I will try to take her home.
If it works for you then proceed. However if you find it isn't working for you then skip to the pub date and bounce to food. Typically coffee to a pub is big change of states and most women don't feel comfortable because coffee implies talking and a pub implies a sexually charged state.
 

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1. Coffee dates aren't a good idea. They are poor for escalation and too static. I'm suggesting something overly elaborate here but change your date venues. Hikes are good, amusement parks, wine bars, rock climbing, etc. Try to have at least one of the following action, alcohol, and/or interesting scenery.

2. Competition/jealousy is like crack for women. As mentioned be cool, calm, and collected and if you get busted or called on it then you can say something like who wouldn't want to talk to two (insert a few compliments here) women. You are downplaying your potential player status by qualifying.
Agreed, coffee is for being friends.
 

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Agreed, coffee is for being friends.
Hmmm, In my country (wester Europe) coffee between adults of different gender is may mean sex. E.g. if man ask woman do you want to come for coffee it implies sex. I know it works also like that in some different western European countries.
 

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Speak with both of them in a friendly tone, keep a low profile and with some luck they could even challenge each other about who gets your attention.

Just dont play the smart kid with both..at some point make your choice according to their feedbacks.
Problem is both are pretty. I would like to have both of them as plates but I do not believe it is realistic option because at some point it will be to obvious.
 

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1. Coffee dates aren't a good idea. They are poor for escalation and too static. I'm suggesting something overly elaborate here but change your date venues. Hikes are good, amusement parks, wine bars, rock climbing, etc. Try to have at least one of the following action, alcohol, and/or interesting scenery.

2. Competition/jealousy is like crack for women. As mentioned be cool, calm, and collected and if you get busted or called on it then you can say something like who wouldn't want to talk to two (insert a few compliments here) women. You are downplaying your potential player status by qualifying.
This is everything you need to know. Your value skyrockets when a woman observes another woman being friendly to you. Women always take their social cues and values from outside of themselves, from other "herd" members.

Action dates are vastly superior to coffee, lunch, etc. It's a great way to appear unique to her, because everybody is asking her out for coffee.
 

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This is everything you need to know. Your value skyrockets when a woman observes another woman being friendly to you. Women always take their social cues and values from outside of themselves, from other "herd" members.

Action dates are vastly superior to coffee, lunch, etc. It's a great way to appear unique to her, because everybody is asking her out for coffee.
Yeah, I saw power of social proof. It's pure gold.

What kind of action dates works for you? For me coffe/walks worked. Any kind of action date was rarely accepted.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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