DoubleA
Senior Don Juan
Is it possible to turn a chic out? Maybe to the point of being stalked? Anyone have any experience with this...
Just making small talk. :nervous:
Just making small talk. :nervous:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ahhh , how sweet , she Aint Ready to be a Marine Yet.Victory Unlimited said:The reason why it takes an army to keep her away from me is because she has just ENLISTED...and she will be leaving for Boot Camp and a four year tour of duty in TWO WEEKS!!!!!! LOL
Your name makes me think of the old Sol Invictus, is that where you got it from?Victory Unlimited said:But no, she is not stalking me yet. BUT, the only thing that is keeping her from doing it is the sheer power of the United States Army. What do I mean? Do I mean that it takes an army to keep her off of me? My ego wants to say YES, but alas, the answer is NO.
The reason why it takes an army to keep her away from me is because she has just ENLISTED...and she will be leaving for Boot Camp and a four year tour of duty in TWO WEEKS!!!!!! LOL
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.