DoubleA
Senior Don Juan
Is it possible to turn a chic out? Maybe to the point of being stalked? Anyone have any experience with this...
Just making small talk. :nervous:
Just making small talk. :nervous:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ahhh , how sweet , she Aint Ready to be a Marine Yet.Victory Unlimited said:The reason why it takes an army to keep her away from me is because she has just ENLISTED...and she will be leaving for Boot Camp and a four year tour of duty in TWO WEEKS!!!!!! LOL
Your name makes me think of the old Sol Invictus, is that where you got it from?Victory Unlimited said:But no, she is not stalking me yet. BUT, the only thing that is keeping her from doing it is the sheer power of the United States Army. What do I mean? Do I mean that it takes an army to keep her off of me? My ego wants to say YES, but alas, the answer is NO.
The reason why it takes an army to keep her away from me is because she has just ENLISTED...and she will be leaving for Boot Camp and a four year tour of duty in TWO WEEKS!!!!!! LOL
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.