"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Trying to win her back

DGboy23

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Hi,

I've been with someone for 4years now.. We got into a fight for 2days straight and to be honest it was really my fault because I always get mad at petty things.. And usually when I get mad i always say the worst things possible to her like I curse her most of the time and suddenly she got tired and wanted to break up with me.

We broke up this past 2 days and I really can't forgive myself for doing those things. She got tired of my stupid attitude when I get mad. I'm really hurting now and I don't know what to do. I really love her so much that I'll do anything to win her back. Even sacrificing the most important things just for her to love me back.

She mentioned that the love that she is feeling right now is not the same as before that is why it's unfair for her to still continue the relationship with me. I don't what to do to be honest. I can't live without her, she is my life.
She also mentioned that only time will tell if we are really meant to be. So she broke up with me to have time to reflect and see what happened. the thing is she wouldn't let me court her again because the break-up wouldn't mean anything if I courted her.

help me please... I really want her back.. I promise to change for the betterment of the relationship..

One more fact that I can say that is why I think she is the one for me, I asked God to give her to me but I think God took her away because of the way I treated her and because I took her for granted..

Anyway, please give me some advice on how to address this problem. I'm really heartbroken and it really hurts. I haven't slept for 2 days now and lately I've been working at the office at a par level.

Thanks,

-Dan
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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By the power of the holy spirit, I cast thy troll into the depths of hell!!!
 

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Hey man I call up Big Kev...and you and me, Chico? We go get the gold...and we get you women chico...
 

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are you a troll too? ive seen a lot of threads created lately by new guys...


WELL, i just hope to god people dont think im one of them cus im not. and im still looking for someone to help me out on my last thread.. why doesnt anyone bother to help? maybe i write too much..
 

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DonDan said:
are you a troll too? ive seen a lot of threads created lately by new guys...


WELL, i just hope to god people dont think im one of them cus im not. and im still looking for someone to help me out on my last thread.. why doesnt anyone bother to help? maybe i write too much..
What thread was that DD? PM me...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Kings_royalty

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DGboy23 said:
Hi,

I've been with someone for 4years now.. We got into a fight for 2days straight and to be honest it was really my fault because I always get mad at petty things.. And usually when I get mad i always say the worst things possible to her like I curse her most of the time and suddenly she got tired and wanted to break up with me.

We broke up this past 2 days and I really can't forgive myself for doing those things. She got tired of my stupid attitude when I get mad. I'm really hurting now and I don't know what to do. I really love her so much that I'll do anything to win her back. Even sacrificing the most important things just for her to love me back.

She mentioned that the love that she is feeling right now is not the same as before that is why it's unfair for her to still continue the relationship with me. I don't what to do to be honest. I can't live without her, she is my life.
She also mentioned that only time will tell if we are really meant to be. So she broke up with me to have time to reflect and see what happened. the thing is she wouldn't let me court her again because the break-up wouldn't mean anything if I courted her.

help me please... I really want her back.. I promise to change for the betterment of the relationship..

One more fact that I can say that is why I think she is the one for me, I asked God to give her to me but I think God took her away because of the way I treated her and because I took her for granted..

Anyway, please give me some advice on how to address this problem. I'm really heartbroken and it really hurts. I haven't slept for 2 days now and lately I've been working at the office at a par level.

Thanks,

-Dan
The only thing you can do right now is give her space, let her reflect. If you start chasing after her, you will only push her away. Don't call her, email or text her. Wait until she contacts you.

Try to keep busy, keep her out of your skull. Yes, it will be hard as hell and it will continue to sting for a while, but it can be done. If anything, work on that little temper you have. Work on improving your self control (sounds like you need help with it).

Guys that display self-control are very sexy to women. Learn to control your emotions because it sounds like they might have cost you your girl.
 

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What if she doesn't come back? what do i do? Man, She's my life... I wouldn't want to live anymore if it wouldn't be with her..

i'm willing to change just for that 1 chance..

Kings royalty thanks...
 

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By the way what if she doesn't contact me again? what do i do?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Kings_royalty said:
The only thing you can do right now is give her space, let her reflect. If you start chasing after her, you will only push her away. Don't call her, email or text her. Wait until she contacts you.

Try to keep busy, keep her out of your skull. Yes, it will be hard as hell and it will continue to sting for a while, but it can be done. If anything, work on that little temper you have. Work on improving your self control (sounds like you need help with it).

Guys that display self-control are very sexy to women. Learn to control your emotions because it sounds like they might have cost you your girl.
What if she doesn't contact me again? Man, she is my life.. I wouldn't want to do if she doesn't come back.. She's the one I want to spend the rest of my life with
 

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DGboy23 said:
What if she doesn't come back? what do i do? Man, She's my life... I wouldn't want to live anymore if it wouldn't be with her..

i'm willing to change just for that 1 chance..

Kings royalty thanks...
If she doesn't come back, then you dust yourself off and keep going bro. That's all you CAN do. This break-up just happened so it hurts like hell right now, give it some time bro.

Call you friends and keep busy, you need them around you now. Try to go out and enjoy yourself.

After 4 years, I'm sure she as some feelings for you, what you have to do is step back and give her time to get reacquainted with them. Your stupid temper has done a good job of killing those feelings up until now, let her get familiar with them again.
 

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DGboy23 said:
By the way what if she doesn't contact me again? what do i do?

After 4 years, I'm confident that she will contact you again, she will start to miss you. She may come up with a dumb excuse like, 'i left my CDs at your house', but I'm sure she will.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Kings_royalty said:
After 4 years, I'm confident that she will contact you again, she will start to miss you. She may come up with a dumb excuse like, 'i left my CDs at your house', but I'm sure she will.
Man, she must come back.. I wouldn't live without her. When is the best time to court her again? Would that be a good idea? Just to prove how much I love her..

By the way, do you think she'll come back?
 

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i'm sorry man but I'm in the office right now and they've blocked Yahoo Messenger. I can try to contact you tomorrow when I'm at home..
 

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WhAcKeD!

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Forget about her. It seems to me the focus in your life is in the wrong place. I think you need to take this time to find out who you really are and learn more about yourself.

By the way you type it sounds like you have been caged this whole time, and now you have finally been let out. You really want to go back to that? It obviously sounds like she was the one in control of the relationship.

Oh yeah, and god had nothing to do with giving you the girl or taking her away, that was YOUR own doing. I remember when I was a huge ass AFC and I would say that same crap, my how things have changed...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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