That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That all depends on how long she has been "using" you...Originally posted by Dictatorsaurus
A girl I know is having problems with her boyfriend and I can feel she's trying to use me as a shoulder to cry on (emotional tampon). Whats the best way to deal with such situations?
Absolutely. I don't allow people to use me for their own entertainment purposes. I get the feeling that she wants attention and wants to use me as a backup plan. I should shag her then throw her out.Originally posted by bonjove
I never allow or put myself into a position for girls to do this to me so I don't know how to respond other than to......
SHOW ABSOLUTLY NO SYMPATHY FOR THEM.
That's right, when she comes to you to whine tell her that you should shake the guys hand that did this to her and that you should COME ALONG ON THEIR DATES TO TAKE NOTES.
Well, I'm not sure about the quality of the advice I just gave you taking that I don't know the situation, but experiment and have fun!!!
And don't be shy to tell the girl to fvck off at any given time and that you arn't going to take that whiney crap from her....
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Make her feel like the worst piece of crap to ever crawl out of the bottom of the ****** sesspool. I have no sympathy for those attention wh@res and neither should you.Originally posted by Dictatorsaurus
Absolutely. I don't allow people to use me for their own entertainment purposes. I get the feeling that she wants attention and wants to use me as a backup plan. I should shag her then throw her out.
Yup...Originally posted by Dictatorsaurus
I'm curious about the consequence. Not that I care though!