She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That all depends on how long she has been "using" you...Originally posted by Dictatorsaurus
A girl I know is having problems with her boyfriend and I can feel she's trying to use me as a shoulder to cry on (emotional tampon). Whats the best way to deal with such situations?
Absolutely. I don't allow people to use me for their own entertainment purposes. I get the feeling that she wants attention and wants to use me as a backup plan. I should shag her then throw her out.Originally posted by bonjove
I never allow or put myself into a position for girls to do this to me so I don't know how to respond other than to......
SHOW ABSOLUTLY NO SYMPATHY FOR THEM.
That's right, when she comes to you to whine tell her that you should shake the guys hand that did this to her and that you should COME ALONG ON THEIR DATES TO TAKE NOTES.
Well, I'm not sure about the quality of the advice I just gave you taking that I don't know the situation, but experiment and have fun!!!
And don't be shy to tell the girl to fvck off at any given time and that you arn't going to take that whiney crap from her....
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Make her feel like the worst piece of crap to ever crawl out of the bottom of the ****** sesspool. I have no sympathy for those attention wh@res and neither should you.Originally posted by Dictatorsaurus
Absolutely. I don't allow people to use me for their own entertainment purposes. I get the feeling that she wants attention and wants to use me as a backup plan. I should shag her then throw her out.
Yup...Originally posted by Dictatorsaurus
I'm curious about the consequence. Not that I care though!