"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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trying to get the girl who is a friend!!!!

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ok, here it goes! i've known this girl for some time now, and we're good friends. but lately i'm starting to have more feelings for her. comes to find out, she tells me "I'm kinda not completely available, and it's kinda a long story"... what does this mean? you're either available or youre not!!! it took me by surprise because we would hang all the time on the weekends and never heard her mentioned a bf, so i figure she didnt have one. we live in different cities, but i dont mind the distance. we're suppose to go to a concert in l.a soon, dont know how i should react, now that she knows i like her as more than friends.
i think am too deep in the friend zone. has anyone been in similar situations? should i lay low for a while, and play it cool? any advice? thanks
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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comes to find out, she tells me "I'm kinda not completely available, and it's kinda a long story"... what does this mean?
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that's not a good thing. pull back fast but gradually. maybe skip the concert. avoid the best friend zone before it's too late.
 
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it's too late

I bet she's COMPLETELY available when you are footing the bills for resturants, the concerts, and wahtever else "great times" you guys have

It means.. you can provide her everything execpt ****. she doesn't find you sexually attractive. Move on. nothing to cut back on. get the fvck out of there.

why do men even degrade themselves to fvck around with women who don't like them?
 
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it's too late

I bet she's COMPLETELY available when you are footing the bills for resturants, the concerts, and wahtever else "great times" you guys have

It means.. you can provide her everything execpt ****. she doesn't find you sexually attractive. Move on. nothing to cut back on. get the fvck out of there.

why do men even degrade themselves to fvck around with women who don't like them?
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Agree. Withdraw your troops, but if you feel the need to keep her around as a friend, or as an "asset" for later ( by asset I mean someone who could help you out with other women etc. etc.) keep her but dont be as available as you normally are/were.
 
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lol, isn't the defination of "libality" something that you put **** into, and don't get **** out of?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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you think i should lay low for awhile. maybe not make contact with her, see how that goes. or maybe tell her that i found someone else to go with to the concert and see how she reacts.
 
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you think i should lay low for awhile. maybe not make contact with her, see how that goes. or maybe tell her that i found someone else to go with to the concert and see how she reacts.
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i liek your way of thinking
 
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lol, isn't the defination of "libality" something that you put **** into, and don't get **** out of?
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sorry i dont know what you're talking about?
 
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