Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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trying to get the girl who is a friend!!!!

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ok, here it goes! i've known this girl for some time now, and we're good friends. but lately i'm starting to have more feelings for her. comes to find out, she tells me "I'm kinda not completely available, and it's kinda a long story"... what does this mean? you're either available or youre not!!! it took me by surprise because we would hang all the time on the weekends and never heard her mentioned a bf, so i figure she didnt have one. we live in different cities, but i dont mind the distance. we're suppose to go to a concert in l.a soon, dont know how i should react, now that she knows i like her as more than friends.
i think am too deep in the friend zone. has anyone been in similar situations? should i lay low for a while, and play it cool? any advice? thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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comes to find out, she tells me "I'm kinda not completely available, and it's kinda a long story"... what does this mean?
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that's not a good thing. pull back fast but gradually. maybe skip the concert. avoid the best friend zone before it's too late.
 
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it's too late

I bet she's COMPLETELY available when you are footing the bills for resturants, the concerts, and wahtever else "great times" you guys have

It means.. you can provide her everything execpt ****. she doesn't find you sexually attractive. Move on. nothing to cut back on. get the fvck out of there.

why do men even degrade themselves to fvck around with women who don't like them?
 
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it's too late

I bet she's COMPLETELY available when you are footing the bills for resturants, the concerts, and wahtever else "great times" you guys have

It means.. you can provide her everything execpt ****. she doesn't find you sexually attractive. Move on. nothing to cut back on. get the fvck out of there.

why do men even degrade themselves to fvck around with women who don't like them?
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Agree. Withdraw your troops, but if you feel the need to keep her around as a friend, or as an "asset" for later ( by asset I mean someone who could help you out with other women etc. etc.) keep her but dont be as available as you normally are/were.
 
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lol, isn't the defination of "libality" something that you put **** into, and don't get **** out of?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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you think i should lay low for awhile. maybe not make contact with her, see how that goes. or maybe tell her that i found someone else to go with to the concert and see how she reacts.
 
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you think i should lay low for awhile. maybe not make contact with her, see how that goes. or maybe tell her that i found someone else to go with to the concert and see how she reacts.
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i liek your way of thinking
 
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lol, isn't the defination of "libality" something that you put **** into, and don't get **** out of?
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sorry i dont know what you're talking about?
 
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