"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Trying to date a stripper at a strip club. I need help.

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Hi all

As you all probably know by now I live in the UK and lately I have been trying to land this stripper at a club in London. Her name is Anna shes is 24 and I have never talked to her before. I was wondering if you guys could help me or give me some tips if you have dated a stripper before. Any ammo you have on openers, negs, etc that I can use on this chick is well appreciated (especially if you have used it before). I really like this chick alot (we are talking Pornstar big boobs and big ass looking woman).

I know I have alot of things working against me. I am not rich(I am a student in Uni so I am barely making it). I am average looking. And physique needs alittle improving. These some of my insecurites but I would still like to get with this chick.

I know going out with a strippers has is pros and cons but I don't care because I just want to land her.

Any help that you have will help alot.

Cheers

YODA.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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As you all probably know by now I live in the UK and lately I have been trying to land this stripper at a club in London. Her name is Anna shes is 24 and I have never talked to her before.
I don't understand. How have you been trying to land this stripper without talking to her? Do you just get lap dances and try to convey your desire with your erection?
 

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atention newbies,,,,,,,,,,,
this is a perfect example of ONEITIS....
try to avoid this mistake as much as possible.
 

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This post is tragic. Seriously. She doesn't look at you as a partner. If she liked you, she'd come get you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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MasterYoda

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Originally posted by Unregistered
I don't understand. How have you been trying to land this stripper without talking to her? Do you just get lap dances and try to convey your desire with your erection?
No I mean I see her but I have never really approached her yet. And no I can't afford lapdances. Are you kidding me? I havent got that type of money
 

MasterYoda

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Originally posted by Leah
This post is tragic. Seriously. She doesn't look at you as a partner. If she liked you, she'd come get you.
Not necessarily. How can you say that. She has probably never seen me before. I have to try and create attraction. If you are on the DJ board you should know this more than anyone.
 

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Originally posted by MasterYoda
Not necessarily. How can you say that. She has probably never seen me before. I have to try and create attraction. If you are on the DJ board you should know this more than anyone.
You failed to create a rapport the second you saw her; now you're most likely infatuated with her, what we called "oneitis struck".

Forget about her, practice your approach, and the best of luck with the next one.

-Bill
 

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Originally posted by Bill
You failed to create a rapport the second you saw her; now you're most likely infatuated with her, what we called "oneitis struck".

Forget about her, practice your approach, and the best of luck with the next one.

-Bill
I have to disagree with you Bill
 

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Ugh not again

In general, strippers are bad news. Stay Away.

But if you insist on learning the hard way, here's how.

Isolate her buy either ofering a smoke, a drink, a dance, whatever. It does'nt matter. Then ask her for her number. It is that easy. 95% they will give it to you. When I used to date strippers, I never had one refuse me her number. Again, though, you are asking for trouble if you do.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Re: Ugh not again

Originally posted by cinephile
In general, strippers are bad news. Stay Away.

But if you insist on learning the hard way, here's how.

Isolate her buy either ofering a smoke, a drink, a dance, whatever. It does'nt matter. Then ask her for her number. It is that easy. 95% they will give it to you. When I used to date strippers, I never had one refuse me her number. Again, though, you are asking for trouble if you do.
What kind of trouble?
 

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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For f-ing sack you need money to date a stripper. stop asking questions.
 

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Originally posted by MasterYoda
OK so no one has any advice for me. I just want to **** her not anything else.
I don't know, I've never even been to a strip club

PM Backbreaker, he seems to have experience with strippers

:D
 

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People here make strippers sound like the worse people in the world but they are human too.

So far no ones has come out with anything useful except alot of BS :mad:
 

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Do a search for Mystery and Hired guns. He has a whole theory on getting them.

By the way, you have oneitis.

You REALLY like her but you've never talked to her?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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