"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Trust...
- Thread starter Hawke
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I only ask this because i see time and again it written here that if she says she trusts you, and as you said bobbles, if your not in a relationship together it's a bad sign. Yet i've heard it a number of times, not been with them in a relationship, yet still f***** them and had them wanting a relationship.
I mean are you guys here trying to suggest she's got to be scared of you, not trust you at all for her to even consider wanting you? Forgive me if i think that's a little basic, and quite a weak reason for thinking she's a lost chance.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
"I trust you."
Translation:
"I want you to feel guilty for being with other women."
Women throw "I trust you." around far too much. Trust is earned, not given freely. I'm beginning to believe it is a ho's set up for when she breaks things off (should you become "intimate"): "I can't believe you did this! I trusted you! It's OVER!"
It's a silly game. Don't play into it. Bust them at it: "You trust me? To do what? You trust me with what?" Make them explain their gibberish and watch them squirm.
Trust is understood: the fact that a woman actually vocalizes it points to a different motivation behind it and calls the legitimacy into question.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Hmmmm, what would you say then if it was a guy who asked the girl if she trusted him? And she was to say she did.Vulpine said:
Rollo Tomassi, i definately can't aruge with you there. Desire is much better... i'm just trying to work out why all the negativity i see associated with the line "I trust you."
It's the fact she's in a position to say it to you means she's probally thinking about somebody else.
Doesn't mean NOTHING will ever happen with a chick that says that to you, don't come to delusional conclusions.
lol, it's just words man, actions speak louder.