I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hmmmm, what would you say then if it was a guy who asked the girl if she trusted him? And she was to say she did.Vulpine said:********:
"I trust you."
Translation:
"I want you to feel guilty for being with other women."
Women throw "I trust you." around far too much. Trust is earned, not given freely. I'm beginning to believe it is a ho's set up for when she breaks things off (should you become "intimate"): "I can't believe you did this! I trusted you! It's OVER!"
It's a silly game. Don't play into it. Bust them at it: "You trust me? To do what? You trust me with what?" Make them explain their gibberish and watch them squirm.
Trust is understood: the fact that a woman actually vocalizes it points to a different motivation behind it and calls the legitimacy into question.