tryst type
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 13, 2007
- Messages
- 615
- Reaction score
- 23
If a girl thinks you're a "catch" she'll play mind games like "hard to get" acting aloof, etc hoping to boost your interest.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
True or False and why
- Thread starter tryst type
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Do you mean "thinks " or "say's" your a catch?
If she thought it but didn't say it how would you know?
I have had a few over the years who say it, and it's just a sure sign to say she's interested in you, the ball is now in your court.
If she thought it but didn't say it how would you know?
I have had a few over the years who say it, and it's just a sure sign to say she's interested in you, the ball is now in your court.
tryst type
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 13, 2007
- Messages
- 615
- Reaction score
- 23
"Thinks" I ask this question because I've noticed from time to time some girls will make you work for their time (which I never do anymore) and I was recently told by a guy friend that it's because the girl is really interested but wants to make sure you're not a player?
This friend is decent with girls but not part of this community so was curious if what he says has some truth.
I just figured these girls just liked being chased as an ego boost and thus I avoid falling into it.
This friend is decent with girls but not part of this community so was curious if what he says has some truth.
I just figured these girls just liked being chased as an ego boost and thus I avoid falling into it.
LorenzoVonM
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 18, 2013
- Messages
- 191
- Reaction score
- 16
In my experience a girl who thinks you are a catch won't play mind-games like ignoring texts/calls, flaking, mixed messages, etc. She might make herself seem busy and make sex wait, but will always be clear in communication. She will help you push the interaction. It will be effortless since being a catch implies that you are seen as something valuable.
If you're getting games then she has some prior baggage, is getting bad advice, or is just plain inexperienced.
If you're getting games then she has some prior baggage, is getting bad advice, or is just plain inexperienced.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
tryst type
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 13, 2007
- Messages
- 615
- Reaction score
- 23
"He's sexy" catch.Jitterbug said:
tryst type
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 13, 2007
- Messages
- 615
- Reaction score
- 23
I think at first he'd get none then she'd play games after to keep him lured in. I've seen this happen when a girl is trying to keep a guy around for the long run.Lexington said:
SecondHalf
Master Don Juan
Three basic answers to this question.
1) She wants a new orbiter.
2) She was testing to stroke her ego, nothing more.
3) She's interested, but has no confidence.
Show some interest back, then let her chase you. If she doesn't, find one that will for this one was not that interested or will likely end up being high maintenance.
SH
1) She wants a new orbiter.
2) She was testing to stroke her ego, nothing more.
3) She's interested, but has no confidence.
Show some interest back, then let her chase you. If she doesn't, find one that will for this one was not that interested or will likely end up being high maintenance.
SH
nismo-4
Moderator
- Joined
- Jan 31, 2005
- Messages
- 4,438
- Reaction score
- 1,142
Would she play games with Brad Pitt? I don't think so.
Women who are interested in you won't confuse you. They won't throw out mixed signals and play games.
TWISI, it could be a power grab so that she has control.
Women are strange, aren't they?
Women who are interested in you won't confuse you. They won't throw out mixed signals and play games.
TWISI, it could be a power grab so that she has control.
Women are strange, aren't they?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
Cosign.LorenzoVonM said:
PlayHer Man
Banned
Women know a "catch" has lots of options. She won't risk losing him or turning him off by playing silly games. At least in the early stages.
Women don't play games until they have somewhat of a solid spot in a relationship (real or perceived). Once she has some level of solid ground, she will push for more power and control. This is when the games start.
So in the early stages --> NO GAMES
Once she has some power.. she will use games to get more. If getting more is not possible, she will feel rejected. Some women will keep chasing and some wont. However, if she manages to get all the power she wants, she will lose interest.
All together, there is no avoiding relationship drama with women if you want to keep them interested. The only thing that works long-term is the roller-coaster relationship --> Giver her power temporarily, then take it away. And repeat this over and over for the duration of the relationship.
All roller-coaster relationships don't have to be highly dramatic. It just depends on the woman. With some women there won't be much drama and it will just be a mild power struggle over petty stuff. Just depends.
Women don't play games until they have somewhat of a solid spot in a relationship (real or perceived). Once she has some level of solid ground, she will push for more power and control. This is when the games start.
So in the early stages --> NO GAMES
Once she has some power.. she will use games to get more. If getting more is not possible, she will feel rejected. Some women will keep chasing and some wont. However, if she manages to get all the power she wants, she will lose interest.
All together, there is no avoiding relationship drama with women if you want to keep them interested. The only thing that works long-term is the roller-coaster relationship --> Giver her power temporarily, then take it away. And repeat this over and over for the duration of the relationship.
All roller-coaster relationships don't have to be highly dramatic. It just depends on the woman. With some women there won't be much drama and it will just be a mild power struggle over petty stuff. Just depends.
tryst type
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 13, 2007
- Messages
- 615
- Reaction score
- 23
PlayHerMan I agree. I'm starting to think as I look back on the early stages ones who play these games that they're shy or haven't really emotionally disconnected from a prior relationship/interest.
I find some girls like to keep a guy chasing for their amusement, I can admit in retrospective I was probably showing too much interest too early even if I was my playful teasing self.
I find some girls like to keep a guy chasing for their amusement, I can admit in retrospective I was probably showing too much interest too early even if I was my playful teasing self.