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Master Don Juan
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If a girl thinks you're a "catch" she'll play mind games like "hard to get" acting aloof, etc hoping to boost your interest.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"He's sexy" catch.Jitterbug said:What kind of catch are we talking about here?
"He's sexy" catch or "he's my ticket to a luxury life" (two examples out of many) catch?
I think at first he'd get none then she'd play games after to keep him lured in. I've seen this happen when a girl is trying to keep a guy around for the long run.Lexington said:Simple thought experiment: if Tom Brady asked a regular girl out, how many games and sh*t tests would he face? I think he'd get few or even none.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Cosign.LorenzoVonM said:In my experience a girl who thinks you are a catch won't play mind-games like ignoring texts/calls, flaking, mixed messages, etc. She might make herself seem busy and make sex wait, but will always be clear in communication. She will help you push the interaction. It will be effortless since being a catch implies that you are seen as something valuable.
If you're getting games then she has some prior baggage, is getting bad advice, or is just plain inexperienced.