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Master Don Juan
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If a girl thinks you're a "catch" she'll play mind games like "hard to get" acting aloof, etc hoping to boost your interest.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"He's sexy" catch.Jitterbug said:What kind of catch are we talking about here?
"He's sexy" catch or "he's my ticket to a luxury life" (two examples out of many) catch?
I think at first he'd get none then she'd play games after to keep him lured in. I've seen this happen when a girl is trying to keep a guy around for the long run.Lexington said:Simple thought experiment: if Tom Brady asked a regular girl out, how many games and sh*t tests would he face? I think he'd get few or even none.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Cosign.LorenzoVonM said:In my experience a girl who thinks you are a catch won't play mind-games like ignoring texts/calls, flaking, mixed messages, etc. She might make herself seem busy and make sex wait, but will always be clear in communication. She will help you push the interaction. It will be effortless since being a catch implies that you are seen as something valuable.
If you're getting games then she has some prior baggage, is getting bad advice, or is just plain inexperienced.