"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Joe's Head

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So this girl and I have some history. We had a very short stint in 8th grade and it wasn't much, but the feelings have lingered on both sides, although she has had other boyfriends since then. We're now sophmores. She broke up with her boyfriend in the past few weeks and she's over him, and she's been showing signs of interest in me. Things like "do me" and "make me happy". And I want her so I've been responding by saying "any time you want it" and other things. We've hung out in the past two weekends and I could definitely feel something between us and I've applied all the C+F (although I haven't done much kino) that should be used.

In the last two days, something's been up though. What was there seems semi-gone. I'm not gonna lie, we have been talking quite a lot on AIM some nights. Maybe 1 and a half to 2 hours, but on and off of course. The conversation is friendly, but it's not friend-to-friend talk. I've inserted sexual stuff and so has she, and a bunch of those conversations have ended with stuff like her saying, "Goodnight darling/baby" and me obliging with "Later babe" and the like. And I asked her to go to the movies and hang out today and she said yeah, but she ended up blowing it off to go over some other guy's house with her friend and for family game night with her family (OK, I guess that's excusable), and she didn't even tell me, a friend of hers did. She's also called me dude a few times recently (which I know is a no-no from guys to girls, don't know about the other way around). She's also hanging out with some guy she describes as "this boy I love" and her other friends tomorrow. She only uses that phrase "this boy" when she's talking about someone she's attracted to most of the time.

Am I just reading too much into this? Or is it over? It's hard to explain the conditions to other people but it seems wavery at this point. I'm not one to accept defeat but should I give up on this? Can attraction be lost literally in around 2 days, even if it was so strong before that?
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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LikRetsam

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Attraction doesn't disappear. Interest does. Make a move and see how she responds; work your way from there. Don't act bothered by her comments about other guys too. You have way too many chicks in your agenda to even begin to think about wether she has a guy or not.
 

Joe's Head

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Attraction doesn't disappear. Interest does.
That's a good point, and you're absolutely right. What move should I make though to get her interest back? If it's been lost. And should I confront her about the movie thing too, or leave that be?
 

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Nothing that happens in 8th grade counts. Sorry.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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