"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Joe's Head

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So this girl and I have some history. We had a very short stint in 8th grade and it wasn't much, but the feelings have lingered on both sides, although she has had other boyfriends since then. We're now sophmores. She broke up with her boyfriend in the past few weeks and she's over him, and she's been showing signs of interest in me. Things like "do me" and "make me happy". And I want her so I've been responding by saying "any time you want it" and other things. We've hung out in the past two weekends and I could definitely feel something between us and I've applied all the C+F (although I haven't done much kino) that should be used.

In the last two days, something's been up though. What was there seems semi-gone. I'm not gonna lie, we have been talking quite a lot on AIM some nights. Maybe 1 and a half to 2 hours, but on and off of course. The conversation is friendly, but it's not friend-to-friend talk. I've inserted sexual stuff and so has she, and a bunch of those conversations have ended with stuff like her saying, "Goodnight darling/baby" and me obliging with "Later babe" and the like. And I asked her to go to the movies and hang out today and she said yeah, but she ended up blowing it off to go over some other guy's house with her friend and for family game night with her family (OK, I guess that's excusable), and she didn't even tell me, a friend of hers did. She's also called me dude a few times recently (which I know is a no-no from guys to girls, don't know about the other way around). She's also hanging out with some guy she describes as "this boy I love" and her other friends tomorrow. She only uses that phrase "this boy" when she's talking about someone she's attracted to most of the time.

Am I just reading too much into this? Or is it over? It's hard to explain the conditions to other people but it seems wavery at this point. I'm not one to accept defeat but should I give up on this? Can attraction be lost literally in around 2 days, even if it was so strong before that?
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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LikRetsam

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Attraction doesn't disappear. Interest does. Make a move and see how she responds; work your way from there. Don't act bothered by her comments about other guys too. You have way too many chicks in your agenda to even begin to think about wether she has a guy or not.
 

Joe's Head

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Attraction doesn't disappear. Interest does.
That's a good point, and you're absolutely right. What move should I make though to get her interest back? If it's been lost. And should I confront her about the movie thing too, or leave that be?
 

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Nothing that happens in 8th grade counts. Sorry.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

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