"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Trip down - and associated costs

konig87

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So a little background:

girl came 250 miles with her girl friend to visit me at college (she came from my hometown, havent hung out with her in years). I hooked up with her, and her friend is really into my roomate.

Anyways, shes been texting me non stop and keeps asking me if I visit back home or w/e and she wants me to come visit her and the other girl wants both me and my roomate to come down so we kind of thought about doing a joint trip (double date idk) to go visit them down back home. Back home sucks tho so I was thinking it be good to get them out of their element and get a hotel by one of the beaches...

anyways, me and my roomate r gonna split gas, and then he wanted to split the hotel but i want to get my own room for and my girl, so its less awkward with all 4 of us in one room...

hotel is kind of expensive for a starving college student like myself, and we just assumed that the girls would split the rooms with us.

Should I assume its a joint venture and just assume the girls are splitting the bill with us?

I was just gonna call her in a couple days and be like heres the plan, c u next weekend.

thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Julius_Seizeher

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No. Never assume women are going to pay for anything.

Vypros- "Rack your brains and find a way."
 

konig87

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haha...well...is the real question then if the hotel + dinner + drinks + gas is worth it???
 

Kailex

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If you don't have the resources to do this... then why try?
You aren't even guaranteed any action.

Why not use that spare money and use it to game women WITHIN your campus?

I know why though... the reason you are even posting this is because you have no options whatsoever. If you did, you'd be telling her that if she wants to see you, that she'd have to come back to you.

My advice is: Don't do it.
Have them come to you.

Don't waste your money on what will most likely end up as a frustrating experience. And meet more girls ON CAMPUS.
 

konig87

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Kailex:

That was the kick in the pants I needed. (To defend myself, I do have some plates spinning up here at college, but they have def taking a lesser priority to this chick...and in retrospect she isn't worth it anyways haha...shes just a little infatuated with me so I was going to take advantage).

I was reading your reply and was like w/e I'm gonna do it anyways, but then I realized that one of my girlfriend's birthday parties is this friday and I don't really want to miss that plus all the time/effort/cash wasted on going home for the weekend.

When I called this girl to tell her my plan yesterday, she seemed xcited but she was like is it confirmed, and luckily I was like I'll let you know, blah blah.

So, I'll probably be like look, theirs a couple things going on here this weekend that I can't miss, some parties n ****, so the whole hotel getaway thing aint gonna work out. But ill be like, I still want to chill with you again so you are definitely allowed to come visit me up here.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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