"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Trip down - and associated costs

konig87

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So a little background:

girl came 250 miles with her girl friend to visit me at college (she came from my hometown, havent hung out with her in years). I hooked up with her, and her friend is really into my roomate.

Anyways, shes been texting me non stop and keeps asking me if I visit back home or w/e and she wants me to come visit her and the other girl wants both me and my roomate to come down so we kind of thought about doing a joint trip (double date idk) to go visit them down back home. Back home sucks tho so I was thinking it be good to get them out of their element and get a hotel by one of the beaches...

anyways, me and my roomate r gonna split gas, and then he wanted to split the hotel but i want to get my own room for and my girl, so its less awkward with all 4 of us in one room...

hotel is kind of expensive for a starving college student like myself, and we just assumed that the girls would split the rooms with us.

Should I assume its a joint venture and just assume the girls are splitting the bill with us?

I was just gonna call her in a couple days and be like heres the plan, c u next weekend.

thoughts?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Julius_Seizeher

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No. Never assume women are going to pay for anything.

Vypros- "Rack your brains and find a way."
 

konig87

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haha...well...is the real question then if the hotel + dinner + drinks + gas is worth it???
 

Kailex

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If you don't have the resources to do this... then why try?
You aren't even guaranteed any action.

Why not use that spare money and use it to game women WITHIN your campus?

I know why though... the reason you are even posting this is because you have no options whatsoever. If you did, you'd be telling her that if she wants to see you, that she'd have to come back to you.

My advice is: Don't do it.
Have them come to you.

Don't waste your money on what will most likely end up as a frustrating experience. And meet more girls ON CAMPUS.
 

konig87

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Kailex:

That was the kick in the pants I needed. (To defend myself, I do have some plates spinning up here at college, but they have def taking a lesser priority to this chick...and in retrospect she isn't worth it anyways haha...shes just a little infatuated with me so I was going to take advantage).

I was reading your reply and was like w/e I'm gonna do it anyways, but then I realized that one of my girlfriend's birthday parties is this friday and I don't really want to miss that plus all the time/effort/cash wasted on going home for the weekend.

When I called this girl to tell her my plan yesterday, she seemed xcited but she was like is it confirmed, and luckily I was like I'll let you know, blah blah.

So, I'll probably be like look, theirs a couple things going on here this weekend that I can't miss, some parties n ****, so the whole hotel getaway thing aint gonna work out. But ill be like, I still want to chill with you again so you are definitely allowed to come visit me up here.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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