"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Trip down - and associated costs

konig87

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So a little background:

girl came 250 miles with her girl friend to visit me at college (she came from my hometown, havent hung out with her in years). I hooked up with her, and her friend is really into my roomate.

Anyways, shes been texting me non stop and keeps asking me if I visit back home or w/e and she wants me to come visit her and the other girl wants both me and my roomate to come down so we kind of thought about doing a joint trip (double date idk) to go visit them down back home. Back home sucks tho so I was thinking it be good to get them out of their element and get a hotel by one of the beaches...

anyways, me and my roomate r gonna split gas, and then he wanted to split the hotel but i want to get my own room for and my girl, so its less awkward with all 4 of us in one room...

hotel is kind of expensive for a starving college student like myself, and we just assumed that the girls would split the rooms with us.

Should I assume its a joint venture and just assume the girls are splitting the bill with us?

I was just gonna call her in a couple days and be like heres the plan, c u next weekend.

thoughts?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Julius_Seizeher

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No. Never assume women are going to pay for anything.

Vypros- "Rack your brains and find a way."
 

konig87

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haha...well...is the real question then if the hotel + dinner + drinks + gas is worth it???
 

Kailex

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If you don't have the resources to do this... then why try?
You aren't even guaranteed any action.

Why not use that spare money and use it to game women WITHIN your campus?

I know why though... the reason you are even posting this is because you have no options whatsoever. If you did, you'd be telling her that if she wants to see you, that she'd have to come back to you.

My advice is: Don't do it.
Have them come to you.

Don't waste your money on what will most likely end up as a frustrating experience. And meet more girls ON CAMPUS.
 

konig87

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Kailex:

That was the kick in the pants I needed. (To defend myself, I do have some plates spinning up here at college, but they have def taking a lesser priority to this chick...and in retrospect she isn't worth it anyways haha...shes just a little infatuated with me so I was going to take advantage).

I was reading your reply and was like w/e I'm gonna do it anyways, but then I realized that one of my girlfriend's birthday parties is this friday and I don't really want to miss that plus all the time/effort/cash wasted on going home for the weekend.

When I called this girl to tell her my plan yesterday, she seemed xcited but she was like is it confirmed, and luckily I was like I'll let you know, blah blah.

So, I'll probably be like look, theirs a couple things going on here this weekend that I can't miss, some parties n ****, so the whole hotel getaway thing aint gonna work out. But ill be like, I still want to chill with you again so you are definitely allowed to come visit me up here.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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