"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tricky Question about the approach?

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Hi everybody

I have an important question to ask. The reading said that you can establish eye contact when you are approaching a girl. My question is about the distance, for example, if i'm in a bar and see a girl across the room, should i wait for the eye contact before approach or i just get near her (like 3 feet away) and establish the eye contact more close to her and then start talking.

Any help will be welcome.

Thanks Steve
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MidnightResistance

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you don't need to get close.
Didn't you listen to all those cheezy pop songs about two people's eyes meeting across a crowded dance floor.

If she doesn't look around the place...chances are that she isn't playing the game.
 

stevec

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Hi there

But how will i meet her? It's better to get close, establish eye contact and meet her. Or try to establish eye contact (like 10 feet away) and the get close to her and meet her.

Thanks for any help :)
 

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stop making a big deal over something so small...

Why are you making a big deal about this? If you see a girl at a bar, then make eye contact wherever u are... but eye contact is bullsh!t in my opinion... if you are interested in a woman, just approach her!


Laterz...
 

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You can establish eye contact from any distance, as long as you can both see each other. It doesn't matter if she's right next to you or the other side of the room, it's no problem in either case.

If she's close to you and you get eye contact, you can break the ice with 'that was a sneaky look you just gave me!' (said with a grin on your face).

If she's further away, then you can give her a smile as well as eye contact. You could also wave at her. Obviously you then have to walk over and talk to her. You could open with 'I couldn't help but notice you were looking at me' or simply 'hi, how's it going'.

Good luck, and remember that you don't need to get eye contact before you approach a girl. It's not 100% necessary, but it does help if you're the kind of guy that wants to test to see if she's interested before you approach.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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proper eye contact can only be established at a distance between 0.84 - 7. 28 feet. Anywere out of that range and your out of luck.

Dont get angry at me I DONT MAKE THE RULES. I am just a humble Ninja Keyaaaaaaaa
 
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