"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tricky Position

Dash Riprock

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Nothing wrong with money dude. You control it, do not allow it to control you. Money working for you is the best "healthy" thing you can do for yourself. As for "friends" and "family", well, they come and go as they please. Rest assured, they will also put themselves first and do what's best for themselves first and you later. You should adopt the same. Working to be financially successful is not evil or greedy. I am quite pleased with myself in terms of coming out of the hood, have a nice financial safety net, nice retirement, small but nice house and a truck.

I know many my age who are either married, in relationships w or w/o kids or divorced which are running the rat race just to make ends meet. Do you feel that's what's important? Worrying how to pay a bill, how do feed a family, how to keep a roof over your head? Life is about choices. Does one choice to budget and spend wisely or live in the moment? Does one chose to eat healthy and exercise or feed their face full of sweets and not exercise?

There is something called a healthy balance. I encourage everyone to find their own healthy balance in their life.
Nothing wrong with money at all. The operative term you used, and I agree with, is "nice" not "excessive."

Does it really make sense to be the richest guy in the graveyard?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tightsocks

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You need to slowly become aloof from her ASAP. She is leaving soon. Next her
 

Mazer

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Easy. Start spinning some plates and keep her in your rotation. Once you have 2-3 new chicks you will slowly distance yourself emotionally from her. The rotation will help. It sounds like it’s going to be difficult because you fell in “love” in less than six months. You should work on that as well.
 
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