"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Transitioning to phone help

sigma335

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Ok so im trying to number close this girl on pof. New to online dating. Here is the last message she sent me. First contacted her a few days ago.

Her: hey, dont think that i am smart and everybody loves me ok, just kidding but im cool and no, i dont like to cook but sometimes i do do u


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What I have written to send her(would be my 3rd message sending her). I have failed to get past 1 or 2 messages with a few girls now and only number closed 1 fugly chick to give me some confidence.

Me: I like to eat more than I like to cook lol Hey playing email tag on here is pretty lame. How bout you give me your phone number and we go from there?



I feel like it is too scripted. Also english is not her 1st language. I am not sweating this chick(HB 7.5) btw but trying to improve my skills here. Thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sigma335 said:
Me: I like to eat more than I like to cook lol Hey playing email tag on here is pretty lame. How bout you give me your phone number and we go from there?
^^^This was good to seal the number deal.

sigma335 said:
What I have written to send her(would be my 3rd message sending her). I have failed to get past 1 or 2 messages with a few girls now and only number closed 1 fugly chick to give me some confidence.
^^^This on the other hand shows signs of neediness and seeking approval.
 

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i don't like your response at all.

Every girl that messaged me back more then once I was able to number close with this.

"So at what point do we exchange numbers?"

"mine is xxx-xxx-xxxx"

Then they either call me or they leave their number on the following email.

Simple.


So, just write:

I'm cooking right now!

So at what point do we exchange numbers?

mine is xxx-xxx-xxxx
 

sigma335

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DondottaJuanpappa said:
^^^This was good to seal the number deal.

Ok

^^^This on the other hand shows signs of neediness and seeking approval.
Trying to fix where I thought I was going wrong. Previously I went for the number after the initial message. My mindset is a work in progress.

DondottaJuanpappa said:
Do you know what it is you want from her?
She is cute and has some qualities I like in a woman. As of right now...I want to see if she looks like her pics irl.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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sigma335 said:
Trying to fix where I thought I was going wrong. Previously I went for the number after the initial message. My mindset is a work in progress.
I don't know much about internet dating, but I like your approach. You're too cool for the email exchange, let's stop dancing around on the internet and exchange numbers. Sounds good to me, man.

Definitely don't water that down with "At what point do we exchange numbers?" It just takes all the testosterone out of what you already wrote, and makes you sound like a tax accountant.
 
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