"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is it possible to go to a 4 year univeristy, do the first 2 years there and then transfer to another 4 year univeristy? or do you HAVE to go to a 2 year institution to be able to tranfer to a 4 year uni?
 

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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

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Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If money isn't an issue, you would be better on average to go to a 4 year university and work as hard as you can. then transfer after a year or two.
 

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Originally posted by Coolage
If money isn't an issue, you would be better on average to go to a 4 year university and work as hard as you can. then transfer after a year or two.
thats what i want to do.... Im in Houston so i was thinking about just going to UH for the first two years and although money isnt such a big issue i can save around $20k on expenses that i would need to take if i went somewhere else out of town. The only issue i have with this is that id have to stay living at home another year or 2, and if by the end of the 2 years or when im 20 years old i dont have enough money to move out on my own and at least live cheaply, then im thinking about transfering somewhere else.
 

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DON'T live at home during your student days. Get a place on campus.
You will miss out SOOOOOOOOOooooo much.
 

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Originally posted by diceman
DON'T live at home during your student days. Get a place on campus.
You will miss out SOOOOOOOOOooooo much.
what get drunk everyday, and party like a mad man? been there done that. people go to college out of town excatly for these reasons and thats why i was thinking about going out of town to college for too. But i think that if i already have my own place, living complelty independently on my own, and having my own thing going on before i get out of college, will be more valuable than all the partying you can give me. when everyone my age is out of college, and theyre trying to make it on their own ill already be in a stable position and hell ill only be like 22....at 22 you can still do all the partying you want
 

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undesputable, your plan sounds fine. also if you worked real hard for your first year or two you could get a scholarship when you transfer and be much better off.

I say go to a university then transfer because generally classes will transfer much more easily and be a better education.
 

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Originally posted by undesputable
what get drunk everyday, and party like a mad man? been there done that. people go to college out of town excatly for these reasons and thats why i was thinking about going out of town to college for too. But i think that if i already have my own place, living complelty independently on my own, and having my own thing going on before i get out of college, will be more valuable than all the partying you can give me. when everyone my age is out of college, and theyre trying to make it on their own ill already be in a stable position and hell ill only be like 22....at 22 you can still do all the partying you want
You got the rest of your life to live in a stable position. Lving it up on campus has a lot of advantages. Meet important, powerful people. Make connections that will serve you well in the coming years. Work on your social and networking skills. Most importantly, have a good time.

Are you in college already, or are you going to be an incoming freshman?
 

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no im not in college yet. i mean just because i dont live on campus doesnt mean that im going to be missing out on so much....I want to stay in town just so i dont have to pay an extra $8k per year on a ****ty dorm and other **** like that. ill basically just be coming to my house to sleep. so youre saying that i wouldnt have a social life or meet people bc i dont sleep in a ****ty dorm?
 

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not that you wouldnt have a social life, but that you have to work harder for it.
 

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I am in a smiliar situation.

I jus got back from taking two years off from school and am now going to start school nearby, then transfering after one year.

Almost all schools except transfers after one year.

What you have to worry about is if your courses will actually transfer.
 

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Originally posted by Centaurion
not that you wouldnt have a social life, but that you have to work harder for it.
well tell me...im not familiar with college life first hand....what is the difference living home and living in the campus? at the end of the day people who live on campus will go to their dorms and ill go home....whats the huge difference?
 

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Originally posted by undesputable
what get drunk everyday, and party like a mad man? been there done that. people go to college out of town excatly for these reasons and thats why i was thinking about going out of town to college for too. But i think that if i already have my own place, living complelty independently on my own, and having my own thing going on before i get out of college, will be more valuable than all the partying you can give me. when everyone my age is out of college, and theyre trying to make it on their own ill already be in a stable position and hell ill only be like 22....at 22 you can still do all the partying you want
Well, this is where you & i differ. I've been thinking alot about life, about when i'm old & looking back on my life, what will my regrets be? What would i like to say i did?

Have the best time possible Is the answer now. Not spend the whole of my life working for the future. Putting off all the fun, exciting & adventurous experiences untill I've reached a certain goal.

That 'goal' will never come if thats your attitude. You are YOUNG. You are FREE. College / University is basically the dream lifestyle. An actual eutopia. There are hundreds of people, your age, all living together in the same place, all looking to have a good time, partying, having fun. Why would you delibretly pass on that that just so you can live out a more stuctured, organised, predictible existance?

To think that living off campus means that you're not missing anything is WAY off the mark. Seriously, you'll get about 4% of the real student lifestyle.

I urge you, you only get ONE chance at living in college. You WILL have the best time of your life there. You will experience more fun than you thought possible.
Don't throw away the best years of your life just to save a bit of money. "Fun is the one thing that money can't buy".

Take a chance. Be a little crazy & do something for the sheer pleasure of it. Stop thinking so far ahead in the future that it stops you from living in the present.
 

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Im not one of those people who look at the past with regret, if anything i just live in the present and look into the future....doesnt mean that im living in the future. Im not trying to do this to live a more predictable, organized, boring, structured life. if i had money to wipe my ass with by all means i would go, but i dont and although i could make it work i dont think is worth it. Ive had crazy party nights and crazy fun just in high school, still leaving at home. so im not fun deprived to where im like oh **** id go to the end of the world to find some fun. ill still meet people and ill still go to parties, would i go to as many if i wasnt living at home, maybe, but i thought the point of college was something else other than going to as many parties as you can. im planning to major in buisness/entrepeneurship, and im not looking to get out and look for a corporate job, im looking to start a buisness even when im in college, so any money that i have is going to be invested in whatever im doing. also by the time im done with college ill be 22, not 60...22 is just one year after you can legally buy alcohol, just one year after you can get into clubs and **** like that, i dont see why college is the only place where i can have fun....dont limit yourself.
 

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Oh, sorry. I forgot that in America you can't drink or go out till you're 21.

Ah, it's great being British.
 

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Do what you like undesputable.

I am going to college this fall if all things go according to plan and ill be living in the dorms for the first year.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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