"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Traits that will make people like you besides funny

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I've been wondering. All the DJs i've seen in my life have been funny. But if your not funny wat other DJ traits are just as effective? I'm really curious about this one
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Simple; anything that makes people feel good about themselves whenever they are around you.
 

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Liking yourself. First personal victories, then public victories. If you love yourself, other people will too.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Simple; anything that makes people feel good about themselves whenever they are around you.
My brother is PRO in that sh1t. And it works like magic!

NO ONE, I mean NO ONE dislikes him.
 

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djbr said:
My brother is PRO in that sh1t. And it works like magic!

NO ONE, I mean NO ONE dislikes him.
It's like a drug people are hooked on. They will seek you out and they will back you up as long as they feel better whenever they are around you. The concept is so simple people easily overlook it. They believe it's just about who they are when in truth is about who the other person is when they are with you. :up:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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how do u make people around you enjoy being around you without being funny?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Simple; anything that makes people feel good about themselves whenever they are around you.
The best way to do this is by giving the person you are talking with your full undivided attention. Make them feel important and interesting even though they might not be. This way the person will feel at ease that he/she is interesting enough and doesn't need to go out of their way to try and impress you. I am sure we all been in a situation where you talk about something and the person across from you just appears bored and uninterested and all you wanted to do is stop the conversation and just get away from them.
 
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