"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Traits that will make people like you besides funny
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
It's like a drug people are hooked on. They will seek you out and they will back you up as long as they feel better whenever they are around you. The concept is so simple people easily overlook it. They believe it's just about who they are when in truth is about who the other person is when they are with you.djbr said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
Dominance
Unpredictable
Confidence
Standing out (Being Different)
I find Dominance and Unpredictable more important than being funny. If you're just funny your just a dancing monkey.
Kev07
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confidence
DO NOT KISS ASS - worse trait ever
believe it or not, kino works on guys too, you may come off as gay if you start too strong, but kino grows on guys too.
ValleyDJing
Master Don Juan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
girl_in_a_boy_forum
Senior Don Juan
The best way to do this is by giving the person you are talking with your full undivided attention. Make them feel important and interesting even though they might not be. This way the person will feel at ease that he/she is interesting enough and doesn't need to go out of their way to try and impress you. I am sure we all been in a situation where you talk about something and the person across from you just appears bored and uninterested and all you wanted to do is stop the conversation and just get away from them.Francisco d'Anconia said: