I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
My brother is PRO in that sh1t. And it works like magic!Francisco d'Anconia said:Simple; anything that makes people feel good about themselves whenever they are around you.
It's like a drug people are hooked on. They will seek you out and they will back you up as long as they feel better whenever they are around you. The concept is so simple people easily overlook it. They believe it's just about who they are when in truth is about who the other person is when they are with you.djbr said:My brother is PRO in that sh1t. And it works like magic!
NO ONE, I mean NO ONE dislikes him.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The best way to do this is by giving the person you are talking with your full undivided attention. Make them feel important and interesting even though they might not be. This way the person will feel at ease that he/she is interesting enough and doesn't need to go out of their way to try and impress you. I am sure we all been in a situation where you talk about something and the person across from you just appears bored and uninterested and all you wanted to do is stop the conversation and just get away from them.Francisco d'Anconia said:Simple; anything that makes people feel good about themselves whenever they are around you.