"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
training 2 times a week=overtrain?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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the short answer is, yes, stick with once a week.Snap87 said:
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Im gaining an assload of strength training each body part 2x a week. Check out my workout journal.
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Then again some bodyparts NEED to be hit more than once a week to grow, and they need to be hit HARD. Calves for example are extremely stubborn and a few sets once a week won't do them much good.
I've also seen pretty good gains when I was squatting, heavy, 3x/week. But this only worked because of the way the program was designed.
So another short answer is this: it's a loaded question.
I recommend only doing that hard core heavy lifting like Diesel has sticked if you want to do that just for yourself. If women is the #1 objective, there are less intense way to get fit and healthy that women will find just as attractive. When your Brad Pitts and George Clooney's start becoming muscle bound 250 pounders, i might become interested; but until then..................
The stereotypes you see in hollywood are actually pretty accurate. How do they protray an Arnold Swartnegger (sp) or Silvester Stallone; as lady men? No. Those are brutes who kill people and blow up stuff. When you think lady's men, think more Clooney, Pitt, Richard Gere and Michael Douglas.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This is possibly the most retarded advice anyone has given out on this forum (and that's saying something). "Hard core heavy lifting" allows you to train 1 hour, 3 times a week, with an intensity that is enjoyable in and of itself. I'm curious about these other "less intense" ways to become attractive to women. There are no short cuts, and heavy lifting is appropriate for guys (and gals!) who want to weigh way less than 250 lbs of solid muscle. And diet is the key anyway -- if you don't want to get that big, lift hard & heavy but consume less protein and kcals.azanon said:
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I say: you're a skinny runt at 150 and want to get up to a lean 180-190 or whatever your 'ideal adonis' whatever is at. here's a hint, training like a girl and eating like you're 150 (tuna, ricecakes, v8) won't get you there. people think they're gonna get pull a bar off the floor and blow up overnight so they do seated cable rows instead, and then wonder why, three years later, they're exactly the same size.
unless you mean my girl, who trains harder on the weights than i do now and eats like she's 150Warboss Alex said:
(sorry, can't help but brag, she's turning herself into one lithe kitty, by ignoring the conventional wisdom and occasionally listening to me)Warboss Alex
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awesome! good for her! I'm sure you're a great teacher bro. And you can punish her when she doesn't do what you say.Throttle said:unless you mean my girl, who trains harder on the weights than i do now and eats like she's 150
my 'kitty' eats like she's twice the size too.. and she packs a punch! she split my lip recently with her elbow.
(she's 115-120 if that, was a blow to my ego in more ways than one! lol)"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
1) you probably won't grow much faster than training once a week
2) you will need proper rest - sauna, lots of sleep, massage, stretches, good diet, hydration... yadda yadda
I would not do it personally. The benefits are not there. I prefer to work out for pleasure, but regularly. One workout with weights and one cardio.