There is this girl I work with. She said she is not attracted to me. But then she told me she thinks I am hot. She thinks attractive means looks. She said she isn't interested in me romantically. Then she said she likes me for who I am. Is said "why do you touch me?" She touches me a lot. But she says she touches me by accident. She said she is interested in me. I don't know what to believe. Maybe she is lying I believe she is although I don't know. Does she have any sexual interest in me at all?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Touching
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
CalmCoolAndConfident
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This girl is bad news stay away from her at all cost, and when she does talk to you act like you could careless about her. She is bad because she will play with you like a rubber band, pulling you one way, then the other, untill you are a so ****ed up that you dont come back to that perfect circle. She'll warp, burn you, and eventually snap you. Bottom line, avoid her like the plague.
floydtheater07
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Yeah, I'd stay away from this one. No point in dealing with her mind games.
Should I quit work?
I work at Cinnabon. This one girl manager, we used to flirt. She told me how everybody in the store loves me. That was 5 months ago. I came to believe this still held effect.
I recentely I found out that this is no longer true. Employees have moved on. I just thought they all found me attractive.
However, I am tired of all of them touching me. I said I don't want anybody to touch me, unless they like me for who I am. I can't really call it sexual harrassment because they claim they can't control it. I want to quit. I still think some of the people still l love me but, I am not sure. I used to enjoy them touching me until the truth was revealed. I eventually found out that the girls were just touching me on accident.
Appearently, it hasn't worked. What should I do?
I work at Cinnabon. This one girl manager, we used to flirt. She told me how everybody in the store loves me. That was 5 months ago. I came to believe this still held effect.
I recentely I found out that this is no longer true. Employees have moved on. I just thought they all found me attractive.
However, I am tired of all of them touching me. I said I don't want anybody to touch me, unless they like me for who I am. I can't really call it sexual harrassment because they claim they can't control it. I want to quit. I still think some of the people still l love me but, I am not sure. I used to enjoy them touching me until the truth was revealed. I eventually found out that the girls were just touching me on accident.
Appearently, it hasn't worked. What should I do?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
LoL.
I wish I could find a way to call it sexual harrassment. But, I don't know how. They claim, they can't control touching me on the, ass. The manager says she touches this other manager on the ass all the time, but the other manager says she hasn't? What is going on?
I wish I could find a way to call it sexual harrassment. But, I don't know how. They claim, they can't control touching me on the, ass. The manager says she touches this other manager on the ass all the time, but the other manager says she hasn't? What is going on?
penkitten
Master Don Juan
dude, any touching from the opposite sex is sexual harassment if you say it is.
google it and see.
google it and see.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
tell them to stop before you file a sexual harassment charge, because it usually works.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Because I no longer find them sexually attractive.
They touch me on the ass. That is sexual harrassment. If they don't really like me for who I am then why like them? I don't find it sexually appealing at all. It is a complete turn off. Sure some of them are hot. It doesn't matter, if they can claim they like me for who I am all they want, but I don't buy it. Thanks for the advice though. They are playing mind games. As it said to pull my rubber band.
They touch me on the ass. That is sexual harrassment. If they don't really like me for who I am then why like them? I don't find it sexually appealing at all. It is a complete turn off. Sure some of them are hot. It doesn't matter, if they can claim they like me for who I am all they want, but I don't buy it. Thanks for the advice though. They are playing mind games. As it said to pull my rubber band.
Chosen1
Master Don Juan
This is one of those girls that, does "like" you. She's just saying she doesn't to hide her feelings. If you do get with her any bad news in that relationship will be YOUR FAULT. Trust me even if she gets crazy it will be all you fault.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
BlackJackal
Master Don Juan
Um...why do you care whether or not these people love you or not? Man you're there to work and make money. Dont **** up your cash flow over some skanks that like to play games.crossboss said:
Serialized3
Master Don Juan
lol you don't make much of a cash flow working at freaking cinnabon.
And seriously, just tell these chicks to knock if off in the most serious tone of voice you can. You can't seriously be this much of a puss...
And seriously, just tell these chicks to knock if off in the most serious tone of voice you can. You can't seriously be this much of a puss...
Question
How do you know that this girl actually does like me? Could working in a close environment be a variable?.
Serialized tell them to knock it of? Like telling them to quit playing mindgames.
Blackjackal, See I don't particularily care if they do or don't like me. It's just the mind games that piss me off.
How do you know that this girl actually does like me? Could working in a close environment be a variable?.
Serialized tell them to knock it of? Like telling them to quit playing mindgames.
Blackjackal, See I don't particularily care if they do or don't like me. It's just the mind games that piss me off.
BlackJackal
Master Don Juan
It's pissin you off cause you're takin it seriously. If you dont like then tell them to stop. Or ask'em if they wanna fukk or not? In a serious tone of course.crossboss said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.