There is this girl I work with. She said she is not attracted to me. But then she told me she thinks I am hot. She thinks attractive means looks. She said she isn't interested in me romantically. Then she said she likes me for who I am. Is said "why do you touch me?" She touches me a lot. But she says she touches me by accident. She said she is interested in me. I don't know what to believe. Maybe she is lying I believe she is although I don't know. Does she have any sexual interest in me at all?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Touching
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
CalmCoolAndConfident
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This girl is bad news stay away from her at all cost, and when she does talk to you act like you could careless about her. She is bad because she will play with you like a rubber band, pulling you one way, then the other, untill you are a so ****ed up that you dont come back to that perfect circle. She'll warp, burn you, and eventually snap you. Bottom line, avoid her like the plague.
floydtheater07
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Yeah, I'd stay away from this one. No point in dealing with her mind games.
Should I quit work?
I work at Cinnabon. This one girl manager, we used to flirt. She told me how everybody in the store loves me. That was 5 months ago. I came to believe this still held effect.
I recentely I found out that this is no longer true. Employees have moved on. I just thought they all found me attractive.
However, I am tired of all of them touching me. I said I don't want anybody to touch me, unless they like me for who I am. I can't really call it sexual harrassment because they claim they can't control it. I want to quit. I still think some of the people still l love me but, I am not sure. I used to enjoy them touching me until the truth was revealed. I eventually found out that the girls were just touching me on accident.
Appearently, it hasn't worked. What should I do?
I work at Cinnabon. This one girl manager, we used to flirt. She told me how everybody in the store loves me. That was 5 months ago. I came to believe this still held effect.
I recentely I found out that this is no longer true. Employees have moved on. I just thought they all found me attractive.
However, I am tired of all of them touching me. I said I don't want anybody to touch me, unless they like me for who I am. I can't really call it sexual harrassment because they claim they can't control it. I want to quit. I still think some of the people still l love me but, I am not sure. I used to enjoy them touching me until the truth was revealed. I eventually found out that the girls were just touching me on accident.
Appearently, it hasn't worked. What should I do?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
LoL.
I wish I could find a way to call it sexual harrassment. But, I don't know how. They claim, they can't control touching me on the, ass. The manager says she touches this other manager on the ass all the time, but the other manager says she hasn't? What is going on?
I wish I could find a way to call it sexual harrassment. But, I don't know how. They claim, they can't control touching me on the, ass. The manager says she touches this other manager on the ass all the time, but the other manager says she hasn't? What is going on?
penkitten
Master Don Juan
dude, any touching from the opposite sex is sexual harassment if you say it is.
google it and see.
google it and see.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
tell them to stop before you file a sexual harassment charge, because it usually works.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Because I no longer find them sexually attractive.
They touch me on the ass. That is sexual harrassment. If they don't really like me for who I am then why like them? I don't find it sexually appealing at all. It is a complete turn off. Sure some of them are hot. It doesn't matter, if they can claim they like me for who I am all they want, but I don't buy it. Thanks for the advice though. They are playing mind games. As it said to pull my rubber band.
They touch me on the ass. That is sexual harrassment. If they don't really like me for who I am then why like them? I don't find it sexually appealing at all. It is a complete turn off. Sure some of them are hot. It doesn't matter, if they can claim they like me for who I am all they want, but I don't buy it. Thanks for the advice though. They are playing mind games. As it said to pull my rubber band.
Chosen1
Master Don Juan
This is one of those girls that, does "like" you. She's just saying she doesn't to hide her feelings. If you do get with her any bad news in that relationship will be YOUR FAULT. Trust me even if she gets crazy it will be all you fault.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
BlackJackal
Master Don Juan
Um...why do you care whether or not these people love you or not? Man you're there to work and make money. Dont **** up your cash flow over some skanks that like to play games.crossboss said:
Serialized3
Master Don Juan
lol you don't make much of a cash flow working at freaking cinnabon.
And seriously, just tell these chicks to knock if off in the most serious tone of voice you can. You can't seriously be this much of a puss...
And seriously, just tell these chicks to knock if off in the most serious tone of voice you can. You can't seriously be this much of a puss...
Question
How do you know that this girl actually does like me? Could working in a close environment be a variable?.
Serialized tell them to knock it of? Like telling them to quit playing mindgames.
Blackjackal, See I don't particularily care if they do or don't like me. It's just the mind games that piss me off.
How do you know that this girl actually does like me? Could working in a close environment be a variable?.
Serialized tell them to knock it of? Like telling them to quit playing mindgames.
Blackjackal, See I don't particularily care if they do or don't like me. It's just the mind games that piss me off.
BlackJackal
Master Don Juan
It's pissin you off cause you're takin it seriously. If you dont like then tell them to stop. Or ask'em if they wanna fukk or not? In a serious tone of course.crossboss said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.