"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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guppyscum

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Hi guys,

Interested to hear your thoughts on this, whether you're for or against it for whatever reasons. I was lying on the beach this weekend and my girl whipped her top off as usual, however asked me if it was appropriate as it was a family style beach. I said whatever makes you happy..

She then went then she went for a swim, and put her top on. Our culture is bizarre than laying on the beach is ok to go topless, but going for a swim (where you think it would be more private) you need to wear a bikini top.. Made me laugh at the oddness of it all.

She always get's quite worked up after a day of topless sunbathing - there's definitely an erotic / exhibitionist element to it whether they admit it or not I feel.

I dated a girl a few years back that went topless on the beach the first time i met her parents. She was rubbing oil over her breasts while her dad sat next to her - a bit uncomfortable and a few conflicting feelings! She was a bit out there though I have to say..

Anyway, interested to hear others musings or thoughts on the issue.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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They're just breasts. We're far too up tight about the human body. So what if some children see breasts? We all see breasts from quite a young age.
 

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I personally don't want other males seeing my girl's tits. But to each his own I guess.
 

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reminds me of people that have issues with breast feeding babys in public....
yea, our society is ****ed up...
 

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growing up in europe, topless sunbathing and thongs were the norm... at the local open-air pool, let alone beaches. I was quite shocked when i moved across the pond and realized that in the US you can get a citation for either one.

Anyone who is against it is way too uptight (or gay).
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Mike32ct

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Showing most of the breast is apparently ok. But if the bare nipples show, then you can get into trouble.

Men can go topless and show our (dummy) nipples. But if women's nipples are shown in the US, it's illegal. I don't get it. I don't see what the big deal is.
 

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drak_ool said:
Anyone who is against it is way too uptight (or gay).
Just because you're too stupid to come up with other possible explanations doesn't mean those are the only two.
 

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Back in my college days one summer, I went on a big tour of Europe (one where everyone gets around on a bus.) Our group hit a few beach places, most notable Club Med in Greece. On the beach all the women were topless :cool: except for the (American) women in our group, who all left their top on. :down:
 

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I was quite shocked when i moved across the pond and realized that in the US you can get a citation for either one.
Yeah, it is a little ridiculous. But to be honest, I don't personally know of any woman who has received a citation for baring her breasts. And there has been a lot of breast baring. I'm sure we all know a few girls who will flash their boobs when they get a little drunk. I think most cops will tend to look the other way (or more accurately, look that way).

On the other hand, I do know several guys who were arrested for indecent exposure because they had to stop and pee by a tree or something. Really, I think that is just as silly.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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