lizardking82
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I am curious what each member rates, in their books, as top 5 signs of high interest and also of low interest from a girl.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Pretty much /thread right there, this is the essential list imo.IOI
1. Eye contact.
2. Nervous behavior.
3. Appears to be interested in what you say.
4. Works to keep your attention.
5. Touching
Low Interest -- Pretty much the opposite of above.
1. Looks around the room not at you.
2. Disinterested behavior.
3. Not paying attention to what you say, not asking questions.
4. Plays with her phone, Easily distracted.
5. Some chicks just don't touch. If she isn't touching you doesn't really mean anything. But if you is giving you negative BL, (Arms crossed, turning away from you) is low interest.
Low Initial:
5. Online dating user
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Loved how simple you made it. ThanksHigh Interest = Submission
Low Interest = Indifference (lack of emotional engagement)
That's all you need to know.
You Beat me to it. I was going to sayHigh Interest = Submission
Low Interest = Indifference (lack of emotional engagement)
That's all you need to know.
I personally don't go based on any type of measurement like this because women have different personalities and based on said personalities, a lot of times a girl could be interested but coming off uninterested....and vice versa.I am curious what each member rates, in their books, as top 5 signs of high interest and also of low interest from a girl.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
best post in the thread imo (because most of the others focus on girls you're already dating)IOI
1. Eye contact.
2. Nervous behavior.
3. Appears to be interested in what you say.
4. Works to keep your attention.
5. Touching
Low Interest -- Pretty much the opposite of above.
1. Looks around the room not at you.
2. Disinterested behavior.
3. Not paying attention to what you say, not asking questions.
4. Plays with her phone, Easily distracted.
5. Some chicks just don't touch. If she isn't touching you doesn't really mean anything. But if you is giving you negative BL, (Arms crossed, turning away from you) is low interest.
Ahh yes that would be the good ole "resting bvtch face". That use to be my favorite look, it was a challenge for me put a smile on the RBF.For example, some women always have this natural "mean/pissed off" look on their faces and for many guys, that could come off like she's not interested.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.