lux1984
Don Juan
I'm female and I need advice from a MANS perspective. I'm new to dating since I recently got out of a 9 yr relationship. help?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Top 4 things you look for when Dating a woman
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'll refer you to the philosopher Dave Chappelle, who rejected the notion that there are 10 things (or, to his point, Cosmo's 100 things) men are looking for. Mr. Chappelle rightly pointed out there are only four things... four ways to please your man...
1. Suck his ****
2. Play with his balls
3. Fix him a sandwich
4. Don't talk so much
1. Suck his ****
2. Play with his balls
3. Fix him a sandwich
4. Don't talk so much
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
Nailed it! And the funny thing is that he is absolutely right!TheCWord said:
More and more women are coming on this forum lately! damn
lux1984
Don Juan
TheCWord said:
:crackup: easy
lux1984
Don Juan
your secrets are safe with me. muhahahahaDonJuanit0 said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
1. Looks. If a woman is not physically attractive im not interested. Dresses nice but not like a ***** or too young for her age.
2. Shows interest. Answers when I call, replies when I text
3. Can hold a conversation. I dont want to hear about your boring life, tell me interesting stuff.
4. Isnt needy, clingy, doesnt complain.
5. Positive attitude
6. Doesnt play hard to get or have any silly '5 date rule' or other such nonsense.
7. Is good in bed
2. Shows interest. Answers when I call, replies when I text
3. Can hold a conversation. I dont want to hear about your boring life, tell me interesting stuff.
4. Isnt needy, clingy, doesnt complain.
5. Positive attitude
6. Doesnt play hard to get or have any silly '5 date rule' or other such nonsense.
7. Is good in bed
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
You look for:
1. Me
2. Me
3. Me
4. Me
Let's kick it baby, I'm the man around here pm me
1. Me
2. Me
3. Me
4. Me
Let's kick it baby, I'm the man around here
pm meLandingWood
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OP you're about to hit the wall so you're trying to figure out what it takes to be a quality woman and not just some *****? You've come to the right place. Also check out redpillwomen on reddit.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
1) Does the best she can with the looks God gave her
2) Respectful attitude
3) Doesn't have wandering eyes
4) Affectionate
5) Low drama
2) Respectful attitude
3) Doesn't have wandering eyes
4) Affectionate
5) Low drama
HalfPUAHalfAFC
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While men don't have the 475 point checklist women often do, men are interested in more than just 4 things....
But here's a list I would put together:
1) Physically attractive. Do your best with what you have. Get/stay in shape, dress nicely, have a nice hairstyle, and put on some make-up (but not too much).
2) Friendly, easy to talk to, outgoing without dominating others.
3) Doesn't nag or b!tch; makes the guy look forward to seeing her, not dread it.
4) Not passive-aggressive; learns to communicate overtly. Keeps sh!t-testing to a minimum.
5) Not a gold digger. Can pay her own way in life without trying to suckle on a man's teat looking for a free ride.
6) Doesn't play games; answers when called, returns texts, doesn't flake, doesn't try to make you jealous by flirting with other guys, etc.
7) Can't wait to see you. Is happy when you are there and can't wait to have you rail her. She's very turned on by you and let's you know it.
8) Has gotten over the passive "make him do all the work" courtship behavior that many women have fallen into. Once a guy makes his interest known, the woman, if also interested, should be willing to put in some effort as well. Play coy too much and high-valued men will just walk away and find another.
9) Defers to a man's decisions about what's best for his life.
10) Doesn't put him down in front of others. Ballbusting is mostly a manly art and women are usually terrible at it. Further, if you are dating a guy and ballbust him in front of a group (usually poorly), it's emasculating and if he bites your head off you've got it coming.
11) Doesn't talk bad about him behind his back to other women. He is YOUR guy and you should be proud of him. If you are not, don't belittle him to others just cut your losses and leave.
12) And the biggie...loyal, honest, and trustworthy. It's forums like these where you will find men sharing their experiences on how few women posses these traits and often exhibit the opposite.
Good luck!
But here's a list I would put together:
1) Physically attractive. Do your best with what you have. Get/stay in shape, dress nicely, have a nice hairstyle, and put on some make-up (but not too much).
2) Friendly, easy to talk to, outgoing without dominating others.
3) Doesn't nag or b!tch; makes the guy look forward to seeing her, not dread it.
4) Not passive-aggressive; learns to communicate overtly. Keeps sh!t-testing to a minimum.
5) Not a gold digger. Can pay her own way in life without trying to suckle on a man's teat looking for a free ride.
6) Doesn't play games; answers when called, returns texts, doesn't flake, doesn't try to make you jealous by flirting with other guys, etc.
7) Can't wait to see you. Is happy when you are there and can't wait to have you rail her. She's very turned on by you and let's you know it.
8) Has gotten over the passive "make him do all the work" courtship behavior that many women have fallen into. Once a guy makes his interest known, the woman, if also interested, should be willing to put in some effort as well. Play coy too much and high-valued men will just walk away and find another.
9) Defers to a man's decisions about what's best for his life.
10) Doesn't put him down in front of others. Ballbusting is mostly a manly art and women are usually terrible at it. Further, if you are dating a guy and ballbust him in front of a group (usually poorly), it's emasculating and if he bites your head off you've got it coming.
11) Doesn't talk bad about him behind his back to other women. He is YOUR guy and you should be proud of him. If you are not, don't belittle him to others just cut your losses and leave.
12) And the biggie...loyal, honest, and trustworthy. It's forums like these where you will find men sharing their experiences on how few women posses these traits and often exhibit the opposite.
Good luck!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
MillionBillionaire
Master Don Juan
One rule ... DO NOT FLIRT WITH OTHER MEN IN FRONT OF ME. WTF IS IT WITH YOU B1TCHES.
SgtSplacker
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No cluster B personality.
Someone with some interests besides me.
Someone that can reasonably take care of themselves.
Someone with a healthy libido.
Boobies are nice too lol...
Someone with some interests besides me.
Someone that can reasonably take care of themselves.
Someone with a healthy libido.
Boobies are nice too lol...
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
1- Must not be crazy
2- Must be sane
3- Mentally lucid
4- Fantastic ass
2- Must be sane
3- Mentally lucid
4- Fantastic ass
lux1984
Don Juan
thanks everyone I appreciate it. I honestly didn't realize most females don't know this common sense stuff and practice it. Most of it involves being a respectable human being and mature lol. The looks department I agree with most women should try a lil harder considering most women are foul on the inside.
my top four from a males perspective lol
1. Must be about something-hobbies/interests/own life.
2. Must make her OWN money and wants to help her man build an empire.(whatever it may be).
3. Take care of herself. That includes working out regularly/eating healthy/KNOWING HOW TO COOK omg hellooo / also includes knowing how to clean. /nice makeup hair/clothes etc.
4. Sex ...yeah it's kinda in our favor since we can have multiples so yeah she should know wtf she's doing. If she doesn't then she needs to watch some Abella Anderson. omg :O If giving blow jobs don't turn her on leave her somethings not right. If she doesn't do kegel exercises she's too dumb come on now. That's some basic stuff I learned in high school.
my top four from a males perspective lol
1. Must be about something-hobbies/interests/own life.
2. Must make her OWN money and wants to help her man build an empire.(whatever it may be).
3. Take care of herself. That includes working out regularly/eating healthy/KNOWING HOW TO COOK omg hellooo / also includes knowing how to clean. /nice makeup hair/clothes etc.
4. Sex ...yeah it's kinda in our favor since we can have multiples so yeah she should know wtf she's doing. If she doesn't then she needs to watch some Abella Anderson. omg :O If giving blow jobs don't turn her on leave her somethings not right. If she doesn't do kegel exercises she's too dumb come on now. That's some basic stuff I learned in high school.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
lux1984
Don Juan
lol understandable. I'll have to do a discreet fan sign. Gotta be careful on the interwebs.4north1side2 said:1.post
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3.pics
4.or get the hell out.
CaptainSaveAh0
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4 honest things I look for..
Ima shallow mother fvcker ... so
1) Physical Appearance - cute face ( really important to me ), someone that takes care of their body ( can be a little thick but not fat )
2) Must have a cool personality. She needs to get along with my friends, we need to get along well, not clingy, intelligent, etc.
3) Must help and support me in bettering myself and achieving my goals
4) Better be a freak in bed
SO this would be my ideal gf, I haven't met her yet that is why I'm single and ready to mingle. But if ur looking for a guy to just fvck you... Then thats a different and a lot simpler story... hahaha
Ima shallow mother fvcker ... so
1) Physical Appearance - cute face ( really important to me ), someone that takes care of their body ( can be a little thick but not fat )
2) Must have a cool personality. She needs to get along with my friends, we need to get along well, not clingy, intelligent, etc.
3) Must help and support me in bettering myself and achieving my goals
4) Better be a freak in bed
SO this would be my ideal gf, I haven't met her yet that is why I'm single and ready to mingle. But if ur looking for a guy to just fvck you... Then thats a different and a lot simpler story... hahaha
Masculinity
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1. Non-feminist
2. Great personality
3. Social
4. Not tight with money
2. Great personality
3. Social
4. Not tight with money