lux1984
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I'm female and I need advice from a MANS perspective. I'm new to dating since I recently got out of a 9 yr relationship. help?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Top 4 things you look for when Dating a woman
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'll refer you to the philosopher Dave Chappelle, who rejected the notion that there are 10 things (or, to his point, Cosmo's 100 things) men are looking for. Mr. Chappelle rightly pointed out there are only four things... four ways to please your man...
1. Suck his ****
2. Play with his balls
3. Fix him a sandwich
4. Don't talk so much
1. Suck his ****
2. Play with his balls
3. Fix him a sandwich
4. Don't talk so much
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
Nailed it! And the funny thing is that he is absolutely right!TheCWord said:
More and more women are coming on this forum lately! damn
lux1984
Don Juan
TheCWord said:
:crackup: easy
lux1984
Don Juan
your secrets are safe with me. muhahahahaDonJuanit0 said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
1. Looks. If a woman is not physically attractive im not interested. Dresses nice but not like a ***** or too young for her age.
2. Shows interest. Answers when I call, replies when I text
3. Can hold a conversation. I dont want to hear about your boring life, tell me interesting stuff.
4. Isnt needy, clingy, doesnt complain.
5. Positive attitude
6. Doesnt play hard to get or have any silly '5 date rule' or other such nonsense.
7. Is good in bed
2. Shows interest. Answers when I call, replies when I text
3. Can hold a conversation. I dont want to hear about your boring life, tell me interesting stuff.
4. Isnt needy, clingy, doesnt complain.
5. Positive attitude
6. Doesnt play hard to get or have any silly '5 date rule' or other such nonsense.
7. Is good in bed
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
You look for:
1. Me
2. Me
3. Me
4. Me
Let's kick it baby, I'm the man around here pm me
1. Me
2. Me
3. Me
4. Me
Let's kick it baby, I'm the man around here
pm meLandingWood
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OP you're about to hit the wall so you're trying to figure out what it takes to be a quality woman and not just some *****? You've come to the right place. Also check out redpillwomen on reddit.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
1) Does the best she can with the looks God gave her
2) Respectful attitude
3) Doesn't have wandering eyes
4) Affectionate
5) Low drama
2) Respectful attitude
3) Doesn't have wandering eyes
4) Affectionate
5) Low drama
HalfPUAHalfAFC
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While men don't have the 475 point checklist women often do, men are interested in more than just 4 things....
But here's a list I would put together:
1) Physically attractive. Do your best with what you have. Get/stay in shape, dress nicely, have a nice hairstyle, and put on some make-up (but not too much).
2) Friendly, easy to talk to, outgoing without dominating others.
3) Doesn't nag or b!tch; makes the guy look forward to seeing her, not dread it.
4) Not passive-aggressive; learns to communicate overtly. Keeps sh!t-testing to a minimum.
5) Not a gold digger. Can pay her own way in life without trying to suckle on a man's teat looking for a free ride.
6) Doesn't play games; answers when called, returns texts, doesn't flake, doesn't try to make you jealous by flirting with other guys, etc.
7) Can't wait to see you. Is happy when you are there and can't wait to have you rail her. She's very turned on by you and let's you know it.
8) Has gotten over the passive "make him do all the work" courtship behavior that many women have fallen into. Once a guy makes his interest known, the woman, if also interested, should be willing to put in some effort as well. Play coy too much and high-valued men will just walk away and find another.
9) Defers to a man's decisions about what's best for his life.
10) Doesn't put him down in front of others. Ballbusting is mostly a manly art and women are usually terrible at it. Further, if you are dating a guy and ballbust him in front of a group (usually poorly), it's emasculating and if he bites your head off you've got it coming.
11) Doesn't talk bad about him behind his back to other women. He is YOUR guy and you should be proud of him. If you are not, don't belittle him to others just cut your losses and leave.
12) And the biggie...loyal, honest, and trustworthy. It's forums like these where you will find men sharing their experiences on how few women posses these traits and often exhibit the opposite.
Good luck!
But here's a list I would put together:
1) Physically attractive. Do your best with what you have. Get/stay in shape, dress nicely, have a nice hairstyle, and put on some make-up (but not too much).
2) Friendly, easy to talk to, outgoing without dominating others.
3) Doesn't nag or b!tch; makes the guy look forward to seeing her, not dread it.
4) Not passive-aggressive; learns to communicate overtly. Keeps sh!t-testing to a minimum.
5) Not a gold digger. Can pay her own way in life without trying to suckle on a man's teat looking for a free ride.
6) Doesn't play games; answers when called, returns texts, doesn't flake, doesn't try to make you jealous by flirting with other guys, etc.
7) Can't wait to see you. Is happy when you are there and can't wait to have you rail her. She's very turned on by you and let's you know it.
8) Has gotten over the passive "make him do all the work" courtship behavior that many women have fallen into. Once a guy makes his interest known, the woman, if also interested, should be willing to put in some effort as well. Play coy too much and high-valued men will just walk away and find another.
9) Defers to a man's decisions about what's best for his life.
10) Doesn't put him down in front of others. Ballbusting is mostly a manly art and women are usually terrible at it. Further, if you are dating a guy and ballbust him in front of a group (usually poorly), it's emasculating and if he bites your head off you've got it coming.
11) Doesn't talk bad about him behind his back to other women. He is YOUR guy and you should be proud of him. If you are not, don't belittle him to others just cut your losses and leave.
12) And the biggie...loyal, honest, and trustworthy. It's forums like these where you will find men sharing their experiences on how few women posses these traits and often exhibit the opposite.
Good luck!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
MillionBillionaire
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One rule ... DO NOT FLIRT WITH OTHER MEN IN FRONT OF ME. WTF IS IT WITH YOU B1TCHES.
SgtSplacker
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No cluster B personality.
Someone with some interests besides me.
Someone that can reasonably take care of themselves.
Someone with a healthy libido.
Boobies are nice too lol...
Someone with some interests besides me.
Someone that can reasonably take care of themselves.
Someone with a healthy libido.
Boobies are nice too lol...
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
1- Must not be crazy
2- Must be sane
3- Mentally lucid
4- Fantastic ass
2- Must be sane
3- Mentally lucid
4- Fantastic ass
lux1984
Don Juan
thanks everyone I appreciate it. I honestly didn't realize most females don't know this common sense stuff and practice it. Most of it involves being a respectable human being and mature lol. The looks department I agree with most women should try a lil harder considering most women are foul on the inside.
my top four from a males perspective lol
1. Must be about something-hobbies/interests/own life.
2. Must make her OWN money and wants to help her man build an empire.(whatever it may be).
3. Take care of herself. That includes working out regularly/eating healthy/KNOWING HOW TO COOK omg hellooo / also includes knowing how to clean. /nice makeup hair/clothes etc.
4. Sex ...yeah it's kinda in our favor since we can have multiples so yeah she should know wtf she's doing. If she doesn't then she needs to watch some Abella Anderson. omg :O If giving blow jobs don't turn her on leave her somethings not right. If she doesn't do kegel exercises she's too dumb come on now. That's some basic stuff I learned in high school.
my top four from a males perspective lol
1. Must be about something-hobbies/interests/own life.
2. Must make her OWN money and wants to help her man build an empire.(whatever it may be).
3. Take care of herself. That includes working out regularly/eating healthy/KNOWING HOW TO COOK omg hellooo / also includes knowing how to clean. /nice makeup hair/clothes etc.
4. Sex ...yeah it's kinda in our favor since we can have multiples so yeah she should know wtf she's doing. If she doesn't then she needs to watch some Abella Anderson. omg :O If giving blow jobs don't turn her on leave her somethings not right. If she doesn't do kegel exercises she's too dumb come on now. That's some basic stuff I learned in high school.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
lux1984
Don Juan
lol understandable. I'll have to do a discreet fan sign. Gotta be careful on the interwebs.4north1side2 said:1.post
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4.or get the hell out.
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4 honest things I look for..
Ima shallow mother fvcker ... so
1) Physical Appearance - cute face ( really important to me ), someone that takes care of their body ( can be a little thick but not fat )
2) Must have a cool personality. She needs to get along with my friends, we need to get along well, not clingy, intelligent, etc.
3) Must help and support me in bettering myself and achieving my goals
4) Better be a freak in bed
SO this would be my ideal gf, I haven't met her yet that is why I'm single and ready to mingle. But if ur looking for a guy to just fvck you... Then thats a different and a lot simpler story... hahaha
Ima shallow mother fvcker ... so
1) Physical Appearance - cute face ( really important to me ), someone that takes care of their body ( can be a little thick but not fat )
2) Must have a cool personality. She needs to get along with my friends, we need to get along well, not clingy, intelligent, etc.
3) Must help and support me in bettering myself and achieving my goals
4) Better be a freak in bed
SO this would be my ideal gf, I haven't met her yet that is why I'm single and ready to mingle. But if ur looking for a guy to just fvck you... Then thats a different and a lot simpler story... hahaha
Masculinity
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1. Non-feminist
2. Great personality
3. Social
4. Not tight with money
2. Great personality
3. Social
4. Not tight with money