lux1984
Don Juan
I'm female and I need advice from a MANS perspective. I'm new to dating since I recently got out of a 9 yr relationship. help?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Top 4 things you look for when Dating a woman
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I'll refer you to the philosopher Dave Chappelle, who rejected the notion that there are 10 things (or, to his point, Cosmo's 100 things) men are looking for. Mr. Chappelle rightly pointed out there are only four things... four ways to please your man...
1. Suck his ****
2. Play with his balls
3. Fix him a sandwich
4. Don't talk so much
1. Suck his ****
2. Play with his balls
3. Fix him a sandwich
4. Don't talk so much
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
Nailed it! And the funny thing is that he is absolutely right!TheCWord said:
More and more women are coming on this forum lately! damn
lux1984
Don Juan
TheCWord said:
:crackup: easy
lux1984
Don Juan
your secrets are safe with me. muhahahahaDonJuanit0 said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
1. Looks. If a woman is not physically attractive im not interested. Dresses nice but not like a ***** or too young for her age.
2. Shows interest. Answers when I call, replies when I text
3. Can hold a conversation. I dont want to hear about your boring life, tell me interesting stuff.
4. Isnt needy, clingy, doesnt complain.
5. Positive attitude
6. Doesnt play hard to get or have any silly '5 date rule' or other such nonsense.
7. Is good in bed
2. Shows interest. Answers when I call, replies when I text
3. Can hold a conversation. I dont want to hear about your boring life, tell me interesting stuff.
4. Isnt needy, clingy, doesnt complain.
5. Positive attitude
6. Doesnt play hard to get or have any silly '5 date rule' or other such nonsense.
7. Is good in bed
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
You look for:
1. Me
2. Me
3. Me
4. Me
Let's kick it baby, I'm the man around here pm me
1. Me
2. Me
3. Me
4. Me
Let's kick it baby, I'm the man around here
pm meLandingWood
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OP you're about to hit the wall so you're trying to figure out what it takes to be a quality woman and not just some *****? You've come to the right place. Also check out redpillwomen on reddit.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
1) Does the best she can with the looks God gave her
2) Respectful attitude
3) Doesn't have wandering eyes
4) Affectionate
5) Low drama
2) Respectful attitude
3) Doesn't have wandering eyes
4) Affectionate
5) Low drama
HalfPUAHalfAFC
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While men don't have the 475 point checklist women often do, men are interested in more than just 4 things....
But here's a list I would put together:
1) Physically attractive. Do your best with what you have. Get/stay in shape, dress nicely, have a nice hairstyle, and put on some make-up (but not too much).
2) Friendly, easy to talk to, outgoing without dominating others.
3) Doesn't nag or b!tch; makes the guy look forward to seeing her, not dread it.
4) Not passive-aggressive; learns to communicate overtly. Keeps sh!t-testing to a minimum.
5) Not a gold digger. Can pay her own way in life without trying to suckle on a man's teat looking for a free ride.
6) Doesn't play games; answers when called, returns texts, doesn't flake, doesn't try to make you jealous by flirting with other guys, etc.
7) Can't wait to see you. Is happy when you are there and can't wait to have you rail her. She's very turned on by you and let's you know it.
8) Has gotten over the passive "make him do all the work" courtship behavior that many women have fallen into. Once a guy makes his interest known, the woman, if also interested, should be willing to put in some effort as well. Play coy too much and high-valued men will just walk away and find another.
9) Defers to a man's decisions about what's best for his life.
10) Doesn't put him down in front of others. Ballbusting is mostly a manly art and women are usually terrible at it. Further, if you are dating a guy and ballbust him in front of a group (usually poorly), it's emasculating and if he bites your head off you've got it coming.
11) Doesn't talk bad about him behind his back to other women. He is YOUR guy and you should be proud of him. If you are not, don't belittle him to others just cut your losses and leave.
12) And the biggie...loyal, honest, and trustworthy. It's forums like these where you will find men sharing their experiences on how few women posses these traits and often exhibit the opposite.
Good luck!
But here's a list I would put together:
1) Physically attractive. Do your best with what you have. Get/stay in shape, dress nicely, have a nice hairstyle, and put on some make-up (but not too much).
2) Friendly, easy to talk to, outgoing without dominating others.
3) Doesn't nag or b!tch; makes the guy look forward to seeing her, not dread it.
4) Not passive-aggressive; learns to communicate overtly. Keeps sh!t-testing to a minimum.
5) Not a gold digger. Can pay her own way in life without trying to suckle on a man's teat looking for a free ride.
6) Doesn't play games; answers when called, returns texts, doesn't flake, doesn't try to make you jealous by flirting with other guys, etc.
7) Can't wait to see you. Is happy when you are there and can't wait to have you rail her. She's very turned on by you and let's you know it.
8) Has gotten over the passive "make him do all the work" courtship behavior that many women have fallen into. Once a guy makes his interest known, the woman, if also interested, should be willing to put in some effort as well. Play coy too much and high-valued men will just walk away and find another.
9) Defers to a man's decisions about what's best for his life.
10) Doesn't put him down in front of others. Ballbusting is mostly a manly art and women are usually terrible at it. Further, if you are dating a guy and ballbust him in front of a group (usually poorly), it's emasculating and if he bites your head off you've got it coming.
11) Doesn't talk bad about him behind his back to other women. He is YOUR guy and you should be proud of him. If you are not, don't belittle him to others just cut your losses and leave.
12) And the biggie...loyal, honest, and trustworthy. It's forums like these where you will find men sharing their experiences on how few women posses these traits and often exhibit the opposite.
Good luck!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MillionBillionaire
Master Don Juan
One rule ... DO NOT FLIRT WITH OTHER MEN IN FRONT OF ME. WTF IS IT WITH YOU B1TCHES.
SgtSplacker
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No cluster B personality.
Someone with some interests besides me.
Someone that can reasonably take care of themselves.
Someone with a healthy libido.
Boobies are nice too lol...
Someone with some interests besides me.
Someone that can reasonably take care of themselves.
Someone with a healthy libido.
Boobies are nice too lol...
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
1- Must not be crazy
2- Must be sane
3- Mentally lucid
4- Fantastic ass
2- Must be sane
3- Mentally lucid
4- Fantastic ass
lux1984
Don Juan
thanks everyone I appreciate it. I honestly didn't realize most females don't know this common sense stuff and practice it. Most of it involves being a respectable human being and mature lol. The looks department I agree with most women should try a lil harder considering most women are foul on the inside.
my top four from a males perspective lol
1. Must be about something-hobbies/interests/own life.
2. Must make her OWN money and wants to help her man build an empire.(whatever it may be).
3. Take care of herself. That includes working out regularly/eating healthy/KNOWING HOW TO COOK omg hellooo / also includes knowing how to clean. /nice makeup hair/clothes etc.
4. Sex ...yeah it's kinda in our favor since we can have multiples so yeah she should know wtf she's doing. If she doesn't then she needs to watch some Abella Anderson. omg :O If giving blow jobs don't turn her on leave her somethings not right. If she doesn't do kegel exercises she's too dumb come on now. That's some basic stuff I learned in high school.
my top four from a males perspective lol
1. Must be about something-hobbies/interests/own life.
2. Must make her OWN money and wants to help her man build an empire.(whatever it may be).
3. Take care of herself. That includes working out regularly/eating healthy/KNOWING HOW TO COOK omg hellooo / also includes knowing how to clean. /nice makeup hair/clothes etc.
4. Sex ...yeah it's kinda in our favor since we can have multiples so yeah she should know wtf she's doing. If she doesn't then she needs to watch some Abella Anderson. omg :O If giving blow jobs don't turn her on leave her somethings not right. If she doesn't do kegel exercises she's too dumb come on now. That's some basic stuff I learned in high school.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
lux1984
Don Juan
lol understandable. I'll have to do a discreet fan sign. Gotta be careful on the interwebs.4north1side2 said:1.post
2.your
3.pics
4.or get the hell out.
CaptainSaveAh0
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4 honest things I look for..
Ima shallow mother fvcker ... so
1) Physical Appearance - cute face ( really important to me ), someone that takes care of their body ( can be a little thick but not fat )
2) Must have a cool personality. She needs to get along with my friends, we need to get along well, not clingy, intelligent, etc.
3) Must help and support me in bettering myself and achieving my goals
4) Better be a freak in bed
SO this would be my ideal gf, I haven't met her yet that is why I'm single and ready to mingle. But if ur looking for a guy to just fvck you... Then thats a different and a lot simpler story... hahaha
Ima shallow mother fvcker ... so
1) Physical Appearance - cute face ( really important to me ), someone that takes care of their body ( can be a little thick but not fat )
2) Must have a cool personality. She needs to get along with my friends, we need to get along well, not clingy, intelligent, etc.
3) Must help and support me in bettering myself and achieving my goals
4) Better be a freak in bed
SO this would be my ideal gf, I haven't met her yet that is why I'm single and ready to mingle. But if ur looking for a guy to just fvck you... Then thats a different and a lot simpler story... hahaha
Masculinity
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1. Non-feminist
2. Great personality
3. Social
4. Not tight with money
2. Great personality
3. Social
4. Not tight with money