"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
TOP 3 Things that give you confidence?
- Thread starter daniel26
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Some general things
* How I view myself
* How competent I feel
* How secure I am in my life
2) my state of mind
3) my state of mind
You have it backwards bro, actions dont give confidence.. when you do an action and OTHER PEOPLE respond well to it isn't confidence.. it is a false sense of reality.. yea it makes you feel good when you get good responses from people.. but your confidence comes from your state of mind and the energy you project in the way you talk & act and how you interact with people on a daily basis.
Start reading the bible and searching.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Hmm…Things that give me confidence.
1. Very slightly above average computer skills.
2. ?
3. ?
State of mind is a very hard thing to change.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It's kind of a vicious circle too. When you're not confident in the things you're doing, you're going to fail at them. If you fail at them, you lose confidence.
That's where mindset comes in. If you can develope the mindset to be confident, even if for only 20 or so minutes, and accomplish something successfully, you'll become MORE confident.
Basically, more confident you are in succeeding, the more you will. The less confident you are succeeding, the less you're actually going to succeed.
It's mind games, baby.
Let's see:
1) "I kick ass!" I tell myself this quite often. It makes me feel like I can do whatever I want. Arrogant? A bit, but it sure beats when I used to think, "I'm a bid loser."
2) "I don't care what other people think about me." This is an important one. I define myself from with in, not from what other's say. I use what positive things people say about me, but most of my confidence comes from inside.
3) "God loves me." Ok, so my religion is helpful in my confidence, so sue me. God created me and loves me. So, what else is important? I love me, ok that too. Anything else? No. God and I am my biggest supporters. If you have that, you need nothing else.
Anyway, those are the sources of my power.
Le Parisien
Master Don Juan
2) my money
3) my d*ck size
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Ok ok more seriously, you are confident or you are not, you can not just enumerate three things and "make" yourself confident.
It's like asking what are the top 3 things that would make you intelligent.
chicksrock
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confidence is subjective for anyone.
Yes you haven't paid DJ Bible enough attention.
True confidence comes when you find good things about you and you like yourself ...and you are most comfortable being yourself..and you wouldn't change yourself for anything in this world
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
1) Knowing beyond doubt that I look GOOOOOD.
2) Knowing that I have the competence to handle ANYTHING that comes my way.
3) Exercising that competence to the level that I'm in "Flow" and having an excellent time.
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Watch Rid****. Be the man.
biker_gixxer
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haha, nice.
elvis aint dead yet
Senior Don Juan
Would you lose all your confidence?
As for saying words to yourself.
Thats all great and can help but-----
lets take basketball.
You keep saying, "I"M GREAT" over and over yet rarely practice free throws.
It doesn't matter how much you say to yourself, if you dont practice, you aren't gonna be very good at making free throws.
Words can be powerful.
But words are useless without action.
If you go out thinking, "I"M GREAT" but dont talk to any girls at a club, what's the point.
yeah your great, who cares.
As i said, words can help you, but if you dont practice and actually do the things you think and want, words wont mean a thing.
elvis aint dead yet, you are correct. But, saying good words to yourself is just the first step. Once you have cleaned out all the crap you say to yourself and replace them with positive stuff, then you can go out there and strut your stuff and start living. Then you can get out there, and this is not just used for dating. It's used for anything in life that you wish to succseed at.
DJ Alejandro
Senior Don Juan
2.) i listen to music which send out a positive vibe and puts me on DJ mode.
3.) i go out and play soccer. taekwondo and aikido too in a touch of security.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
b's nuts
Master Don Juan
2 - Working out. Your not afraid to look anyone in the eyes if your feeling healthy and strong, especially strong, you also just begin to irradiate confidence.
3 - Sports. Playing sports can definately help give you confidence, especially if you just won a game, tournement, match, no matter what your sport is.
No confidence? Here is a little tip from the best movie ever made, boiler room. Act as if. Act as if you have a 12 inch c0ck. Act is if you are the big swinging **** of the world. Act as if you have all the skills to pay the bills, whatever- - just act as if.
SealTeamSix
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1) Surrounded by friends (knowing that I have nice 'home base', I can perform lot better when i decide to PU)
2) GQ Styling.
3) My physique
Here is where I want to be:
State of mind: when I want to be confident (hide my fears) I can .. or getting into that 'zone' whenever i desire ..