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Master Don Juan
Good insights by this lifelong bachelor.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
sevbucmash
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There is no reason to stay single. Get into the relationship. Combine incomes. Get some kids going.
SW15
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Unmarried men have less freedom than that guy thinks they have.
Unmarried men are often dependent upon traditional employment, which does make a man less free.
An unmarried man may have a personal life with a good amount of freedom but employment makes him less free as he is dependent upon money from an employer to live.
Not all unmarried men are in a good money situation.
Most men need some sort of relationship in order to get regular sex.
Unmarried men are often dependent upon traditional employment, which does make a man less free.
An unmarried man may have a personal life with a good amount of freedom but employment makes him less free as he is dependent upon money from an employer to live.
Not all unmarried men are in a good money situation.
Most men need some sort of relationship in order to get regular sex.
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So you’re saying they can’t start their own businesses with a fair amount of savings?
Clockwerk50
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I thought this would be your YouTube video.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SW15
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Most don't have enough savings to do that.
taiyuu_otoko
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How bout you make your own decisions and live your own life the way want instead of following some rando on YT?
Gamisch
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I don't get it. You live in the Philippines. That's means you supposedly have it 1000 times easier than any member on the board.
Regarding the video: dude doesn't look like he gets to choose if his single but that's ofcourse me being judgemental.
Being single is fine. But staying single forever is cope.
Regarding the video: dude doesn't look like he gets to choose if his single but that's ofcourse me being judgemental.
Being single is fine. But staying single forever is cope.
Being single has its pros and cons just like being in a relationship.
Some guys have a preference for one or the other.
The best of both worlds I think is to live on your own, have a girlfriend that is not clingy, lives on her own as well and to catch up on average once a week, maybe more at times e.g. occasional weekends away.
This leaves you enough independence and freedom to do your own thing, spin plates if you want and to exit the relationship without legal complications if it isn’t working out.
Many girls won’t settle for this arrangement long term though.
Some guys have a preference for one or the other.
The best of both worlds I think is to live on your own, have a girlfriend that is not clingy, lives on her own as well and to catch up on average once a week, maybe more at times e.g. occasional weekends away.
This leaves you enough independence and freedom to do your own thing, spin plates if you want and to exit the relationship without legal complications if it isn’t working out.
Many girls won’t settle for this arrangement long term though.
Fortune_favors_the_bold
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If you're born a circle you wont die as a square.
Each of us is made to work in a certain way...some guys needs freedom like oxygen while others need stability and support.
Some play it safe and within the rules, others need to have their hands free while they gamble or create their world.
If you play within the limits you limit the achievement and the issues, if you play outside the rules anything is on the menu.
Each of us is made to work in a certain way...some guys needs freedom like oxygen while others need stability and support.
Some play it safe and within the rules, others need to have their hands free while they gamble or create their world.
If you play within the limits you limit the achievement and the issues, if you play outside the rules anything is on the menu.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hamurabimbi
Master Don Juan
I’ve never had a GF that would tolerate a 1xweek meet. At least 3-4/week.
Hamurabimbi
Master Don Juan
You will learn, just how much you can break the rules and get away with it.
“Charming people live up to the very edge of their charm, and behave as outrageously as the world lets them.”
Logan Pearsall Smith
jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
One of the things you'll find out about staying single is that you'll learn a lot about yourself and women from the outside. Now I don't want to make any claims, but staying single has helped me analyze what the 1000 **** stare means, even though I've never been able to understand the real difference, between that look and the one girls will have when they're really attracted to you.
Sometimes there are girls who are really attracted to you, and they'll have that look, just because they're attracted to you. Have you ever noticed? They become empty or they look at you that way, because they want you.
So that doesn't help much to understand either.
But I'm doing my best
Sometimes there are girls who are really attracted to you, and they'll have that look, just because they're attracted to you. Have you ever noticed? They become empty or they look at you that way, because they want you.
So that doesn't help much to understand either.
But I'm doing my best
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I'll be continuing to LIVE alone in '25... This makes dating and mating much simpler
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LOL haha….consider this guy blessed and
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SW15
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During the official boyfriend - girlfriend phase, the couple is getting together around 3 days a week. They are maintaining separate residences during this phase. This is a good phase. This is the phase that I like best.
This phase doesn't last forever. There's some good discussion that can be had around the idea of how long this phase can last. With others in my social circle, this phase didn't last more than a few years before a cohabitation phase and/or a marriage phase.
The majority of my social circle did an unmarried cohabitation phase before marriage.
jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
It's very attractive to be seen as very busy.
But then when they move in together, women realize that in reality their man was not as busy as he wanted to make them believe. He was just making himself unavailable to increase her sense of lack.
jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Age? Kids?
40 plus!!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.