Travel memoir21
Master Don Juan
Good insights by this lifelong bachelor.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
So you’re saying they can’t start their own businesses with a fair amount of savings?Unmarried men have less freedom than that guy thinks they have.
Unmarried men are often dependent upon traditional employment, which does make a man less free.
An unmarried man may have a personal life with a good amount of freedom but employment makes him less free as he is dependent upon money from an employer to live.
Not all unmarried men are in a good money situation.
Most men need some sort of relationship in order to get regular sex.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Most don't have enough savings to do that.So you’re saying they can’t start their own businesses with a fair amount of savings?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I’ve never had a GF that would tolerate a 1xweek meet. At least 3-4/week.Being single has its pros and cons just like being in a relationship.
Some guys have a preference for one or the other.
The best of both worlds I think is to live on your own, have a girlfriend that is not clingy, lives on her own as well and to catch up on average once a week, maybe more at times e.g. occasional weekends away.
This leaves you enough independence and freedom to do your own thing, spin plates if you want and to exit the relationship without legal complications if it isn’t working out.
Many girls won’t settle for this arrangement long term though.
You will learn, just how much you can break the rules and get away with it.If you're born a circle you wont die as a square.
Each of us is made to work in a certain way...some guys needs freedom like oxygen while others need stability and support.
Some play it safe and within the rules, others need to have their hands free while they gamble or create their world.
If you play within the limits you limit the achievement and the issues, if you play outside the rules anything is on the menu.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
During the official boyfriend - girlfriend phase, the couple is getting together around 3 days a week. They are maintaining separate residences during this phase. This is a good phase. This is the phase that I like best.I’ve never had a GF that would tolerate a 1xweek meet. At least 3-4/week.
It's very attractive to be seen as very busy.During the official boyfriend - girlfriend phase, the couple is getting together around 3 days a week. They are maintaining separate residences during this phase. This is a good phase. This is the phase that I like best.
Age? Kids?Almost All of my friends are either divorced or on their second marriage living proof that I was not the problem
40 plus!!Age? Kids?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.