"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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top 3 qualifiers

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If you're good with women or well read with seduction related materials, then you know about qualifying women. Share your top 3 qualification questions. Here are my top 3:

> are you adventurous?
> are you a social person?
> are you good in bed?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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>anal?
>no?
>taxi?
 

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1. Does she think for herself (vs. just following the herd)

2. Is she open to new things (vs. being set in her ways)

3. Is she assertive enough to take care of herself when I’m not in the room

Those are the big three.

Sex is irrelevant to me. I can teach her anything she doesn’t know.
 

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> are you adventurous?
Why is this question ALWAYS asked as a qualifying question in every seduction book I've ever seen? Is it that important really? I'm not entirely sure what it means, should she have made a summit bid on Everest before you agree to go out with her?

> are you a social person?
I don't think I've ever met a woman who WASN'T a social person. Weird question.

> are you good in bed?
Actions, not words.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Nexus Polaris said:
1. Does she think for herself (vs. just following the herd)

2. Is she open to new things (vs. being set in her ways)

3. Is she assertive enough to take care of herself when I’m not in the room

Those are the big three.

Sex is irrelevant to me. I can teach her anything she doesn’t know.

very good questions. They're going in my collection. Thanks and more success to you.
 

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zekko said:
Why is this question ALWAYS asked as a qualifying question in every seduction book I've ever seen? Is it that important really? I'm not entirely sure what it means, should she have made a summit bid on Everest before you agree to go out with her?
I think that the question," Are you adventurous ?" is an enquiry in regard to the girls' wilingness to step outside her comfort zone and be a little spontaneous and experimental .
 

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zekko said:
Why is this question ALWAYS asked as a qualifying question in every seduction book I've ever seen? Is it that important really? I'm not entirely sure what it means, should she have made a summit bid on Everest before you agree to go out with her?


I don't think I've ever met a woman who WASN'T a social person. Weird question.


Actions, not words.

Answer #1: probably because it sets up a positive self image for the girl to live up to. An adventurous girl, for instance, may have sex with you on the first date or give you a bj in a public bathroom.


Answer #2: asking a girl if she is social is not weird it's smart if you use it as a warm up to more personal qualification questions. For example you just met someone you're not exactly gonna ask right off if she's good in bed or why you should like her. She won't care to answer you. But if you ask her a simple question like "are you social?" then she is more likely to say YES because most girls are social. Whether she knows it or not, she just opened up to you. Now it's easier for her to share more information with you about herself because she has already told you something about her. The more she shares with you the more connected she feels to you. And because you'll seem to be sizing her up (now this is weird) she'll want to answer your questions because as human beings we want to prove to others that we are worthy, cool, or whatever it is that she wants to be. Women especially since in our society they may feel they need to prove themselves more than men. Of course I'm generalizing but this is just my take on the topic.
 

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jophil28 said:
I think that the question," Are you adventurous ?" is an enquiry in regard to the girls' wilingness to step outside her comfort zone and be a little spontaneous and experimental .
I agree.
 
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