"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you're good with women or well read with seduction related materials, then you know about qualifying women. Share your top 3 qualification questions. Here are my top 3:

> are you adventurous?
> are you a social person?
> are you good in bed?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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>anal?
>no?
>taxi?
 

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1. Does she think for herself (vs. just following the herd)

2. Is she open to new things (vs. being set in her ways)

3. Is she assertive enough to take care of herself when I’m not in the room

Those are the big three.

Sex is irrelevant to me. I can teach her anything she doesn’t know.
 

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> are you adventurous?
Why is this question ALWAYS asked as a qualifying question in every seduction book I've ever seen? Is it that important really? I'm not entirely sure what it means, should she have made a summit bid on Everest before you agree to go out with her?

> are you a social person?
I don't think I've ever met a woman who WASN'T a social person. Weird question.

> are you good in bed?
Actions, not words.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Nexus Polaris said:
1. Does she think for herself (vs. just following the herd)

2. Is she open to new things (vs. being set in her ways)

3. Is she assertive enough to take care of herself when I’m not in the room

Those are the big three.

Sex is irrelevant to me. I can teach her anything she doesn’t know.

very good questions. They're going in my collection. Thanks and more success to you.
 

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zekko said:
Why is this question ALWAYS asked as a qualifying question in every seduction book I've ever seen? Is it that important really? I'm not entirely sure what it means, should she have made a summit bid on Everest before you agree to go out with her?
I think that the question," Are you adventurous ?" is an enquiry in regard to the girls' wilingness to step outside her comfort zone and be a little spontaneous and experimental .
 

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zekko said:
Why is this question ALWAYS asked as a qualifying question in every seduction book I've ever seen? Is it that important really? I'm not entirely sure what it means, should she have made a summit bid on Everest before you agree to go out with her?


I don't think I've ever met a woman who WASN'T a social person. Weird question.


Actions, not words.

Answer #1: probably because it sets up a positive self image for the girl to live up to. An adventurous girl, for instance, may have sex with you on the first date or give you a bj in a public bathroom.


Answer #2: asking a girl if she is social is not weird it's smart if you use it as a warm up to more personal qualification questions. For example you just met someone you're not exactly gonna ask right off if she's good in bed or why you should like her. She won't care to answer you. But if you ask her a simple question like "are you social?" then she is more likely to say YES because most girls are social. Whether she knows it or not, she just opened up to you. Now it's easier for her to share more information with you about herself because she has already told you something about her. The more she shares with you the more connected she feels to you. And because you'll seem to be sizing her up (now this is weird) she'll want to answer your questions because as human beings we want to prove to others that we are worthy, cool, or whatever it is that she wants to be. Women especially since in our society they may feel they need to prove themselves more than men. Of course I'm generalizing but this is just my take on the topic.
 

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jophil28 said:
I think that the question," Are you adventurous ?" is an enquiry in regard to the girls' wilingness to step outside her comfort zone and be a little spontaneous and experimental .
I agree.
 
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