"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Took bad drug

mrpickles666

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I took a tranquilizing pill that activated my depression. I was standing in front of this girl silent and in my head while my friend was talking to her (he wasn't trying to game her, he was just making friendly conversation). I had my hands behind my back (one hand cupping wrist) and he made a joke "you're standing like a soldier." In response to this she mimicked a soldier's stance and I laughed it off saying "I am a soldier." I'm worried that I conveyed stiffness and uptightness.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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TheVirtualMind

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What is your question?
I'm trying to figure out the same thing...

Hell, I'm trying to figure out if this belongs in "Discussion," "Health and Fitness," "Anything Else," or "Unusual Techniques in Seduction."
 

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My question: would me having my hands behind my back (hand holding wrist) coupled with my friend's observational joke of it and her response (mimicking standing like a soldier) leave a permanent impression of me being stiff? The question comes from my negative depressed thoughts. I'd like to talk to her when I'm in a better mood but I feel awkward now because of what I did. Chances are I'm gonna see her again but I'm concerned that I've started to burn a bridge with the demeanor I had tonight
 

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My game is often affected by my depression. When I'm down on myself, my ability to be a DJ gets impeded by my medical condition. I did a foolish thing by taking a drug that exacerbated it and I feel bad about myself. I need to learn how to talk to girls inspite of my moods.
 

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My question: would me having my hands behind my back (hand holding wrist) coupled with my friend's observational joke of it and her response (mimicking standing like a soldier) leave a permanent impression of me being stiff?
The answer to your question is irrelevant. You should be asking different questions.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Chamber36

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Don't take any drugs dude.

Work on your confidence. Keep studying/working, keep your house clean, keep yourself clean, brush your teeth, comb your hair, dress well, be polite.

And don't be a "Woe is me!!" type of guy. That's the biggest turn-off ever, unless you want to attract chicks that cut themselves.

Finally: Someone telling you that you are like a soldier is a compliment imo.

What are you some kind of hippy anarchist that hates anything to do with discipline and masculinity? Be a fvckin soldier.
 

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Don't take any drugs dude.

Work on your confidence. Keep studying/working, keep your house clean, keep yourself clean, brush your teeth, comb your hair, dress well, be polite.

And don't be a "Woe is me!!" type of guy. That's the biggest turn-off ever, unless you want to attract chicks that cut themselves.

Finally: Someone telling you that you are like a soldier is a compliment imo.

What are you some kind of hippy anarchist that hates anything to do with discipline and masculinity? Be a fvckin soldier.
Funny you should say it was a compliment. I actually told the guy I had a problem with what he said earlier today and we are no longer friends. The comment itself didn't bother me. I projected my low mood onto it and it did. I regret standing near my friend and that girl at the time. It left me vulnerable at the wrong time for me. When I'm not in a bad mood, I have no problem socializing. Especially with girls.
 

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I'm sure she forgot about it.

He probably forgot it until you told him he had a problem with it.

You need to forget about it.

No relationship hinges on one single momentary interaction.
 
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