"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Took bad drug

mrpickles666

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I took a tranquilizing pill that activated my depression. I was standing in front of this girl silent and in my head while my friend was talking to her (he wasn't trying to game her, he was just making friendly conversation). I had my hands behind my back (one hand cupping wrist) and he made a joke "you're standing like a soldier." In response to this she mimicked a soldier's stance and I laughed it off saying "I am a soldier." I'm worried that I conveyed stiffness and uptightness.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheVirtualMind

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What is your question?
I'm trying to figure out the same thing...

Hell, I'm trying to figure out if this belongs in "Discussion," "Health and Fitness," "Anything Else," or "Unusual Techniques in Seduction."
 

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My question: would me having my hands behind my back (hand holding wrist) coupled with my friend's observational joke of it and her response (mimicking standing like a soldier) leave a permanent impression of me being stiff? The question comes from my negative depressed thoughts. I'd like to talk to her when I'm in a better mood but I feel awkward now because of what I did. Chances are I'm gonna see her again but I'm concerned that I've started to burn a bridge with the demeanor I had tonight
 

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My game is often affected by my depression. When I'm down on myself, my ability to be a DJ gets impeded by my medical condition. I did a foolish thing by taking a drug that exacerbated it and I feel bad about myself. I need to learn how to talk to girls inspite of my moods.
 

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My question: would me having my hands behind my back (hand holding wrist) coupled with my friend's observational joke of it and her response (mimicking standing like a soldier) leave a permanent impression of me being stiff?
The answer to your question is irrelevant. You should be asking different questions.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Chamber36

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Don't take any drugs dude.

Work on your confidence. Keep studying/working, keep your house clean, keep yourself clean, brush your teeth, comb your hair, dress well, be polite.

And don't be a "Woe is me!!" type of guy. That's the biggest turn-off ever, unless you want to attract chicks that cut themselves.

Finally: Someone telling you that you are like a soldier is a compliment imo.

What are you some kind of hippy anarchist that hates anything to do with discipline and masculinity? Be a fvckin soldier.
 

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Don't take any drugs dude.

Work on your confidence. Keep studying/working, keep your house clean, keep yourself clean, brush your teeth, comb your hair, dress well, be polite.

And don't be a "Woe is me!!" type of guy. That's the biggest turn-off ever, unless you want to attract chicks that cut themselves.

Finally: Someone telling you that you are like a soldier is a compliment imo.

What are you some kind of hippy anarchist that hates anything to do with discipline and masculinity? Be a fvckin soldier.
Funny you should say it was a compliment. I actually told the guy I had a problem with what he said earlier today and we are no longer friends. The comment itself didn't bother me. I projected my low mood onto it and it did. I regret standing near my friend and that girl at the time. It left me vulnerable at the wrong time for me. When I'm not in a bad mood, I have no problem socializing. Especially with girls.
 

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I'm sure she forgot about it.

He probably forgot it until you told him he had a problem with it.

You need to forget about it.

No relationship hinges on one single momentary interaction.
 
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