"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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too soon to be official??

falconslax89

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so i have been talking to this girl for about 3 weeks. it is clear she wants to be in a relationship already and even though i do as well, i have avoided letting her label us to not show desire and let her gain the upper hand. do you guys think im doing the right thing or should i just go for it since she is the one that always brings it up even though its early?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tesl

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If you both want it to be official then just become official - I don't see any point in "getting the upper hand" by delaying it - whatever that is even supposed to mean.
 

sandman6991

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I agree with Tesl. If she has made it clear that she wants a relationship, and that's also what you want...then there's no use in putting it off. I've lost girls in the past by screwing around too long and not "striking while the iron is hot."
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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amoka

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Did you just say you've been "talking" to her for three weeks? You need to change that to "fvcking" her for three weeks.

That being said, let her be doing the thinking of being "exclusive" with you. It is not your job.
 

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It is too soon. Your feelings of wanting to be exclusive to her are pretty normal, but give yourself some time to learn more about this woman.

What you should be doing right now is not worrying about being a couple. You should be:

1) Fvcking her and making sure you enjoy her in a compatibility kind of way.
2) Setting some boundaries for what you accept from women and then BEING CONGRUENT.
3) Enjoying your time with her and embracing the chemical rush that comes with that.
4) Letting her push for exclusivity and you DECIDING if you want it or not (the only harm that could come from turning her down is she would probably start some jealousy plots.)
 

falconslax89

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bukowski_merit said:
It is too soon. Your feelings of wanting to be exclusive to her are pretty normal, but give yourself some time to learn more about this woman.

What you should be doing right now is not worrying about being a couple. You should be:

1) Fvcking her and making sure you enjoy her in a compatibility kind of way.
2) Setting some boundaries for what you accept from women and then BEING CONGRUENT.
3) Enjoying your time with her and embracing the chemical rush that comes with that.
4) Letting her push for exclusivity and you DECIDING if you want it or not (the only harm that could come from turning her down is she would probably start some jealousy plots.)
thanks man good advice! i have been ****ing her quite a bit. this is pretty much what ive been doing and will continue to do until i know for sure what i want.
 
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