"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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too soon to be official??

falconslax89

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so i have been talking to this girl for about 3 weeks. it is clear she wants to be in a relationship already and even though i do as well, i have avoided letting her label us to not show desire and let her gain the upper hand. do you guys think im doing the right thing or should i just go for it since she is the one that always brings it up even though its early?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Tesl

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If you both want it to be official then just become official - I don't see any point in "getting the upper hand" by delaying it - whatever that is even supposed to mean.
 

sandman6991

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I agree with Tesl. If she has made it clear that she wants a relationship, and that's also what you want...then there's no use in putting it off. I've lost girls in the past by screwing around too long and not "striking while the iron is hot."
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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amoka

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Did you just say you've been "talking" to her for three weeks? You need to change that to "fvcking" her for three weeks.

That being said, let her be doing the thinking of being "exclusive" with you. It is not your job.
 

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It is too soon. Your feelings of wanting to be exclusive to her are pretty normal, but give yourself some time to learn more about this woman.

What you should be doing right now is not worrying about being a couple. You should be:

1) Fvcking her and making sure you enjoy her in a compatibility kind of way.
2) Setting some boundaries for what you accept from women and then BEING CONGRUENT.
3) Enjoying your time with her and embracing the chemical rush that comes with that.
4) Letting her push for exclusivity and you DECIDING if you want it or not (the only harm that could come from turning her down is she would probably start some jealousy plots.)
 

falconslax89

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bukowski_merit said:
It is too soon. Your feelings of wanting to be exclusive to her are pretty normal, but give yourself some time to learn more about this woman.

What you should be doing right now is not worrying about being a couple. You should be:

1) Fvcking her and making sure you enjoy her in a compatibility kind of way.
2) Setting some boundaries for what you accept from women and then BEING CONGRUENT.
3) Enjoying your time with her and embracing the chemical rush that comes with that.
4) Letting her push for exclusivity and you DECIDING if you want it or not (the only harm that could come from turning her down is she would probably start some jealousy plots.)
thanks man good advice! i have been ****ing her quite a bit. this is pretty much what ive been doing and will continue to do until i know for sure what i want.
 
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