So i have tried everything. Ok maybe not everything but i have tried many different things i learned from this forum and no matter what i do i always turn back to my friendly self. I am just too nice. It sucks because i can't help but try to please girls, which in turn makes them only want to be my friend. Apparently i give off some kind of vibe that attracts girls, but not sexually. I get many many girls who want to be my friend but never my girlfriend. If i try to play any kind of game or use the push pull or whatever i ruin it because i feel bad and i give in which in turn makes me feel like a pvssy. Please help me i seriously do not know what to do.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Too Nice. Please help!
- Thread starter Biggie
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Michael Chief
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try this out:
imagine yourself as an actor.
act like a complete d!ck.
try that for a week and see how it feels and see what your results are.
imagine yourself as an actor.
act like a complete d!ck.
try that for a week and see how it feels and see what your results are.
You being "too nice" is you being a phony. You're nice because you think it will get you something, not becuase you're a "great guy". Then you try to replace that with another phony face "the jerk".
Women can sense phoniness. You should get in touch with who you are.
Women can sense phoniness. You should get in touch with who you are.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Funny you should say that grim, cuz i'm majoring in theatre and i want to become an actor haha. And reset you're right i am too nice thinking it will get me something, then when it doesn't i get pissed off and become a jerk. I do need to find a way to get in touch with who i am. i just don't know how exactly.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Eventually, enough women will stomp on your feelings until you become jaded enough to turn into the type of jerk that attracts women. It's a natural process that most of us go through.
Kev07
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I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell by Tucker Max
1.Buy it
2read it
3.???
4.profit.
1.Buy it
2read it
3.???
4.profit.
Stop treating other people as better than yourself just because they're pretty.
Read the Book of Pook and "The Natural Order of Things" to understand what being a man is really about. It's sure as hell not about worshipping women.
Maybe check out Pook's blog also to see how women will screw you over if you act too nice.
And yeah, working out is a good idea, too.
Read the Book of Pook and "The Natural Order of Things" to understand what being a man is really about. It's sure as hell not about worshipping women.
Maybe check out Pook's blog also to see how women will screw you over if you act too nice.
And yeah, working out is a good idea, too.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.