So i have tried everything. Ok maybe not everything but i have tried many different things i learned from this forum and no matter what i do i always turn back to my friendly self. I am just too nice. It sucks because i can't help but try to please girls, which in turn makes them only want to be my friend. Apparently i give off some kind of vibe that attracts girls, but not sexually. I get many many girls who want to be my friend but never my girlfriend. If i try to play any kind of game or use the push pull or whatever i ruin it because i feel bad and i give in which in turn makes me feel like a pvssy. Please help me i seriously do not know what to do.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Too Nice. Please help!
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Michael Chief
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try this out:
imagine yourself as an actor.
act like a complete d!ck.
try that for a week and see how it feels and see what your results are.
imagine yourself as an actor.
act like a complete d!ck.
try that for a week and see how it feels and see what your results are.
You being "too nice" is you being a phony. You're nice because you think it will get you something, not becuase you're a "great guy". Then you try to replace that with another phony face "the jerk".
Women can sense phoniness. You should get in touch with who you are.
Women can sense phoniness. You should get in touch with who you are.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Funny you should say that grim, cuz i'm majoring in theatre and i want to become an actor haha. And reset you're right i am too nice thinking it will get me something, then when it doesn't i get pissed off and become a jerk. I do need to find a way to get in touch with who i am. i just don't know how exactly.
Bible_Belt
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Eventually, enough women will stomp on your feelings until you become jaded enough to turn into the type of jerk that attracts women. It's a natural process that most of us go through.
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I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell by Tucker Max
1.Buy it
2read it
3.???
4.profit.
1.Buy it
2read it
3.???
4.profit.
Stop treating other people as better than yourself just because they're pretty.
Read the Book of Pook and "The Natural Order of Things" to understand what being a man is really about. It's sure as hell not about worshipping women.
Maybe check out Pook's blog also to see how women will screw you over if you act too nice.
And yeah, working out is a good idea, too.
Read the Book of Pook and "The Natural Order of Things" to understand what being a man is really about. It's sure as hell not about worshipping women.
Maybe check out Pook's blog also to see how women will screw you over if you act too nice.
And yeah, working out is a good idea, too.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.