So i have tried everything. Ok maybe not everything but i have tried many different things i learned from this forum and no matter what i do i always turn back to my friendly self. I am just too nice. It sucks because i can't help but try to please girls, which in turn makes them only want to be my friend. Apparently i give off some kind of vibe that attracts girls, but not sexually. I get many many girls who want to be my friend but never my girlfriend. If i try to play any kind of game or use the push pull or whatever i ruin it because i feel bad and i give in which in turn makes me feel like a pvssy. Please help me i seriously do not know what to do.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Too Nice. Please help!
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Michael Chief
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try this out:
imagine yourself as an actor.
act like a complete d!ck.
try that for a week and see how it feels and see what your results are.
imagine yourself as an actor.
act like a complete d!ck.
try that for a week and see how it feels and see what your results are.
You being "too nice" is you being a phony. You're nice because you think it will get you something, not becuase you're a "great guy". Then you try to replace that with another phony face "the jerk".
Women can sense phoniness. You should get in touch with who you are.
Women can sense phoniness. You should get in touch with who you are.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Funny you should say that grim, cuz i'm majoring in theatre and i want to become an actor haha. And reset you're right i am too nice thinking it will get me something, then when it doesn't i get pissed off and become a jerk. I do need to find a way to get in touch with who i am. i just don't know how exactly.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Eventually, enough women will stomp on your feelings until you become jaded enough to turn into the type of jerk that attracts women. It's a natural process that most of us go through.
Kev07
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I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell by Tucker Max
1.Buy it
2read it
3.???
4.profit.
1.Buy it
2read it
3.???
4.profit.
Stop treating other people as better than yourself just because they're pretty.
Read the Book of Pook and "The Natural Order of Things" to understand what being a man is really about. It's sure as hell not about worshipping women.
Maybe check out Pook's blog also to see how women will screw you over if you act too nice.
And yeah, working out is a good idea, too.
Read the Book of Pook and "The Natural Order of Things" to understand what being a man is really about. It's sure as hell not about worshipping women.
Maybe check out Pook's blog also to see how women will screw you over if you act too nice.
And yeah, working out is a good idea, too.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.