So i have tried everything. Ok maybe not everything but i have tried many different things i learned from this forum and no matter what i do i always turn back to my friendly self. I am just too nice. It sucks because i can't help but try to please girls, which in turn makes them only want to be my friend. Apparently i give off some kind of vibe that attracts girls, but not sexually. I get many many girls who want to be my friend but never my girlfriend. If i try to play any kind of game or use the push pull or whatever i ruin it because i feel bad and i give in which in turn makes me feel like a pvssy. Please help me i seriously do not know what to do.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Too Nice. Please help!
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Michael Chief
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try this out:
imagine yourself as an actor.
act like a complete d!ck.
try that for a week and see how it feels and see what your results are.
imagine yourself as an actor.
act like a complete d!ck.
try that for a week and see how it feels and see what your results are.
You being "too nice" is you being a phony. You're nice because you think it will get you something, not becuase you're a "great guy". Then you try to replace that with another phony face "the jerk".
Women can sense phoniness. You should get in touch with who you are.
Women can sense phoniness. You should get in touch with who you are.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Funny you should say that grim, cuz i'm majoring in theatre and i want to become an actor haha. And reset you're right i am too nice thinking it will get me something, then when it doesn't i get pissed off and become a jerk. I do need to find a way to get in touch with who i am. i just don't know how exactly.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Eventually, enough women will stomp on your feelings until you become jaded enough to turn into the type of jerk that attracts women. It's a natural process that most of us go through.
Kev07
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I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell by Tucker Max
1.Buy it
2read it
3.???
4.profit.
1.Buy it
2read it
3.???
4.profit.
Stop treating other people as better than yourself just because they're pretty.
Read the Book of Pook and "The Natural Order of Things" to understand what being a man is really about. It's sure as hell not about worshipping women.
Maybe check out Pook's blog also to see how women will screw you over if you act too nice.
And yeah, working out is a good idea, too.
Read the Book of Pook and "The Natural Order of Things" to understand what being a man is really about. It's sure as hell not about worshipping women.
Maybe check out Pook's blog also to see how women will screw you over if you act too nice.
And yeah, working out is a good idea, too.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.